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⌈ Secret Post #6378 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

Funnily back in the 80's and 90's those queer stories were actually helpful to get people to feel some kind of sympathy for us when thousands of us were DYING from HiV. I haven't seen a more serious look at queer struggles in recent years that wasn't from the perspective of a queer person and thus treating us as fully fledged characters despite the depressing subject matter, we get to be people now! How novel.

Also: try not being white, we absolutely did and still do get those stories sometimes so that's not an argument that works. (I am also fine with authors of colour writing those stories even if I don't always want to engage with it.)

[(Anonymous)]

Funnily back in the 80's and 90's those queer stories were actually helpful to get people to feel some kind of sympathy for us when thousands of us were DYING from HiV.

But that's completely time- and context-dependent. The fact that at one time, gay men were experiencing an epidemic and needed to get public opinion on their side in order to combat it does not mean that we need "look at the poor, tragic gays" in perpetuity.

(I am also fine with authors of colour writing those stories even if I don't always want to engage with it.)

And a lot of authors of color do not want to write those stories, but find that white publishers expect them to do so. It's fetishization of the suffering of the Other, plain and simple.

[(Anonymous)]

That's your opinion though, which I'm not disagreeing with you having but it doesn't mean that those who want to explore the sad sides of being queer are wrong or bad. It's just a difference of taste. I'm not even interested in reading every and all serious books about queer struggles, but that doesn't mean they don't get to exist or that I get to tell other people what they can create.

And there are authors of colour who do want to write about their struggles because no one group is a monolith, like that's basically a huge problem that parts of progressive online spaces are struggling with: that we all have our own perspectives and wants from media and instead of listening to each other people just yell that one perspective is bad.

Like I am not telling you that you can't enjoy happy, no queer issues queer media, and I'm not suggesting it shouldn't exist. Why would I? I like them too. But you don't get to dictate what kind of serious queer media gets to exist either. Because neither of us speak for everyone.

[(Anonymous)]

To be clear, I don't want people to be disallowed from telling those sorts of stories, especially if they want to. Rather, I want it to not feel like those sorts of stories are what's expected, because that sort of fetishization of suffering that I mentioned above often does come through. It feels sometimes like these sorts of stories are used as a way for people to assuage themselves of the guilt they feel over their privilege, rather than as a way for people to work through their struggles and speak to others who have experienced similar things.

[(Anonymous)]

That's a fair point and honestly: perhaps some people are coming from a place of guilt, but I ultimately think it's difficult for either of us to say that authors are or aren't doing this as we're not in their heads. Hell people can write something from a place of misplaced guilt without even realising it a lot of the time.

I don't personally feel like the queer-suffering stories are really the default anymore, and haven't been for a while. We don't have a hundreds of shows with us as the central characters in a plot about something else certainly, but I no longer expect queer characters to die randomly for existing in a story. They may be part of an ensemble but they get the same chance as any other character. And if you go to books, my gosh there's loads of queer stories out there, not all of them are good mind you, lol. But that's kind of the beauty of it for me, we have our guilty pleasure trash as well. xD

[(Anonymous)]

That's your opinion though, which I'm not disagreeing with you having but it doesn't mean that those who want to explore the sad sides of being queer are wrong or bad.

okay but there are tons of us whose experience with being queer HASN'T been sad or tragic and we would like to see more representations of that too instead of the default "being gay makes you miserable" shit. it gets very tiring when the default assumption is that being queer = suffering. some of us came out and got "well if you get a girlfriend then we're expecting you to bring her for thanksgiving dinner the same way we did if you had a boyfriend."

[(Anonymous)]

As I've responded to above I'm not sure what you're engaging with where sad queerness is the norm anymore? Outside of countries that sadly still have their version of the Hayes Code due to censorship, queer characters I see get to be happy, sometimes sad(because that's just stories sometimes) and everything in between. Not even happy stories lack sad moments.

And your want for happy queer stories is still your personal preference, which you are allowed to have and engage with, but you don't get to tell other queer people who want to write sadness that they aren't allowed to because you don't like it.