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⌈ Secret Post #6499 ⌋

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[The Cat Has Its Heart on the Outside]



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Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Today was my late Dad's birthday and the first one since he passed away. My older brother who lives upcountry was completely silent for the whole day. No messages, no calls. I've checked in with my Dad's sister and mother, neither of which he's done. I posted a photo and birthday message to a group Whatsapp that he's a part of, which he's seen but no reply or reaction from him.

I know I'm the more sentimental of the two and me and my Dad had the closer relationship, but it's been such a heavy day and I'm just really disappointed that he didn't speak to any of us or acknowledge it in any way, at all. Idk.

Re: Vent thread

[greghousesgf]

hugs if you want them. I love my dad and I'd probably fall apart if he died.

AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

Hugs are so welcome, thank you <3 Me and my Dad were incredibly close and I'm definitely still falling apart. It was such a rapid progression from him being diagnosed last June and passing at the end of February (leap year 29th, so commemorating that to the day will be difficult). I looked after him at my home for the end of it. He was amazing and just fucking mattered so much to me that it really hurts that my brother just let today pass by.

Give your Dad a big big hug next time you see him. I'm sure he's an awesome one too. <3

Re: AYRT

[greghousesgf]

I don't get to see him very often because he lives 2000 miles away but I will.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

That’s so tough and I’m so sorry for your loss <3 In a perfect world, everyone would do what we want them to when it comes to our emotional needs. But it just doesn’t work that way :( I hope your brother is ok because processing grief alone is extra hard. Big love to you all because it sounds like you’re all hurting

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I am sorry for your loss.

I am going to play devil's advocate here. I am more like your brother - I would absolutely ignore everyone and everything because I just can't deal with such things with talking. I need to keep my facade because I can't break down, because me breaking down is unstoppable anger. Why I have toxic masculinity traits while being a woman idk.
Anyway. There is a chance that he is also grieving just in his way

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I agree with this. Different people have different ways of grieving, and I know from experience that it can hurt when they clash, but I think the different ways can all work out with understanding and patience from all sides.

I'm sorry for your loss. Wishing your family peace and comfort.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

It is so hard. My mom died and there are five of us siblings. One of my sisters and I cope by talking about mom (and her death) a lot, but the other three cope by basically never talking about her. My sister and I ended up creating a seperate message group so we could mourn our way together. We bounce around between sadness, happy memories, and all encompassing rage.

I am really sorry for your loss and for feeling unsupported and alone in your grief. All the hugs and sympathy for you

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Is this something you've discussed with him before? I'm asking because this reminds me of my brother being unable to talk about our late sister, something I expected him to want to, which was unfair of me. Things got better when we talked about it.