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Not strictly political so putting it here.

Who are some people you have dropped from your life or social circle and why?

Bonus points for the pettiest reasons!

I'll go first with an example: friend constantly late to everything. Wasn't worth it after a while

Flaky friend. They have always been flaky even when we were in high school so i built a kind of immunity to it over the years, but a few months ago i decided to just cut them out because enough was enough.

They promised me to take me someplace for my birthday, I compromised A LOT to accomodate their schedule, actually reschedule the trip so it wasn't actually my birthday but the day before it TWO WEEKS BEFORE DEPARTING, there's a problem so we reschedule the trip to be the day after my bday ONE WEEK BEFORE DEPARTING, I got everything ready to go, they cancelled the trip the day before, so on my bday. :)

I turned 35 and I wanted to go to that place with them to celebrate. It fucking broke my heart and it triggered one of my worst depression episodes I've had in the last few years.
I don't want to hear from them for a while. Fuck them.

Also generally I just forget some people exist if they are not close friends. So idk I drop off people constantly because of my forgetfulness I guess.

I swear this is me but on the opposite end of the scale. I had a friend like this who was flakey as fuck and then turned around and got mad at me for missing their birthday WHEN I TOLD THEM A WEEK IN ADVANCE THAT I WOULD BE BUSY THAT DAY.

She flopped around when we were trying to decide to go to Europe together and then gets mad at ME for having a scheduled busy day when I told her I'd make it up to her by taking her out for lunch. She cut me off and out of her life and it hurt, yeah, but imo a birthday is just any other day. It wasn't even a big one for her and our other friends had been there. Heck I spent yesterday, my own birthday, alone.

Best friends don't exist to me and I'm fine with that.

My uncle. Because I found out he abused my mother when they were teens.

A couple pro-Trump people that used to be in my life.

ex-roommate. You know the adage about how if someone says everyone around them is an asshole, they're actually the asshole? She was poster child for it. We comforted her so many times because she had so many sob stories about people icing her out, only to realize she was the problem. She turned on us when we were the next scapegoat in line. Bye felicia. The two of us bought a house to get away from sharing space with her.

coworker ex friend at one of my jobs and their circle. I dropped them because they had lots of extreme all- or-nothing keyboard warrior type takes on a bunch of things. And also they started basically pity-party-guilt-tripping me to sleep with them. So glad to be like several states away from them now lol

Also, in 2016 , a British trumper who when I tried to explain why some people were upset about his presidency, tried to tell me that what I was telling them based MY EXPERIENCES living in MY OWN COUNTRY were just evidence I had believed "left wing media". Yeah no I fuckin LIVE here you don't get to tell me that MY own experience is all lies.

My dad. He was an abusive asshole. I had a small celebration when I got the call that he had died.

It's been five years since I've spoken to my MIL and I regret nothing. Life is more peaceful with far less drama without her. If you're familiar with r/JustNoMIL, she's nowhere near that bad, just extremely immature and self-centered. I suspect she's got some sort of undiagnosed personality disorder and is certainly a narcissist if not a Narcissist(PD). She's got a whole collection of recurring irritating behavior, including lying, demanding your time and attention unless she's dating some new scumbag loser and then she has no time for you, being a tactless and rude loudmouth saying assholish things and then pouting and crying because she didn't mean it and how could you do something so unreasonable as to want to hold her accountable for her own behavior while simultaneously being super sensitive about rejection and anything negative she perceives other people saying/thinking about her. If she wants something, then she's entitled to whatever that is and if you don't give it to her or make it happen for her, you're a terrible person who hates her and is trying to punish her for some petty reason.

She has very little power because she's got no financial hold over us, my husband has zero time or patience for her thanks to a childhood full of emotional neglect and abandonment, and she doesn't live in our city and can't drive so she can't do surprise visits. She has few friends because she likes to use people up for money, rides, whatever until they get tired of being treated like a servant and ghost her. A few years ago I got sick of her constant stream of self-pitying BS over imagined slights and told her that I'd call her out each and every single time and not to speak to me unless she could act like a mature, responsible adult. It's been mostly silence since then, with occasional guilt-tripping e-mails or birthday cards addressed to my husband (who never speaks to her) only, because she's too stupid to grasp that it was ME who facilitated any relationship she had with her precious son, and since she pissed me off, I decided to quit trying to do nice things for her and she can die lonely now.

I've got actual petty reason. I blocked mutual on twitter who was always using 🐽 emoji. This was annoying in itself, but when she started dieting and calling herself a pig and using this emoji even more. (Yup, she is (was) a thin woman and I am quite fat)

Idk, that shows a complete lack of awareness of others, even if their intention isn't to be mean to someone else. Someone who couldn't be considerate of me wouldn't be my friend very long. Depending on how bad it got, I might just talk to them less or block them as you have.

Yup, it was so insensitive. I wasn't very close with her and she annoyed me for some other reasons (I don't remember what) so I was just out. I am usually (mildly) bulling my friends if they are bringing some fat phobic rhetoric.

But thin people are absolutely wild. I've been minding my own business and my boss(!) was telling me how she apparently needs to loose some weight because 55 kg (~120 p) is so much. And I was like??? Girl? The fuck

1: "I need to / want to lose some weight" = relatable, do what you feel suits you
2: "god I'm so fat, I weight sooo much" = unnecessary, weird, fishing for compliments?

Step 1 gets the point across fine and people may want to lose weight for any variety of reasons. Even if it's to fit into your old pants. A person at healthy weight might want to be a smaller healthy weight and there is no problem with that.

I don't really get why people need to go to the second step.

A "friend" who had all kinds of boundary issues. She was an emotional vampire type looking for someone to be her bestest bestie, long talks on the phone everyday, hang out every weekend, find ways to entertain her when she was bored. Which was all the time. I'm an introvert and realized I was in over my head, fast. We didn't last long!

'Friends' who usually ghost me or flake out a lot. I was a chronic people pleaser when I was younger and would be the one to try to keep in contact until they would re-enter my life when it was only convenient for them.
Now post-2020, I no longer give a fuck and have my own problems to deal with so I don't bother to reach out and figured that they can see themselves out of my life like they've already been doing for the past several.

There's been a few times they've tried to message 'I miss you, lets hangout soon!', but I never take it seriously and am usually right to not actually plan anything with them since they've 'cancelled' their own plans many times in a row (plus I figured that if they didn't cancel then I would at the last second, just to give them a taste of their own medicine).

Longtime Tumblr mutual who started policing what I posted and would publicly comment/reblog posts to call me out on it instead of talking to me one-on-one. I blocked her after I did a “ask me about my unpopular opinions” game, and she asked me to be more positive and genuine. I get enough of that from my family IRL, thanks. Let me be a bitch somewhere in peace!

I knew someone like that on tumble too. We met through alternative fashion, but in the last few years she only ever messaged/tagged post to criticize and tell me that I shouldn't have post or reblogged it.
The final straw was when I reblogged a behind-the-meme post that was cheerful, but she still found it to be too problematic and ranted at me - followed by a vague post that made me realized that we were NOT friends and finally motivated me to block her ass.

I'm currently trying to ghost someone because they contacted me out of the blue a month ago and started acting like we were close friends, texting me every day and stuff, when the last time we interacted was at least two years ago and we were casual friends at best. I find the suddenness very offputting and also have nothing in common with them.

A childhood friend who was rather bossy and controlling. She always had to be right, and I think she might have been some type of compulsive liar, because she told things that turned out not to be true quite often. I stopped reaching out to her almost 10 years ago, and only see her posts on social media every now and then.

HS friend who I always had a tumultuous relationship with. They messaged me on FB when I declined their friend request. Most mature friendship breakup because after I told them that I felt our relationship was best kept in the past they told me they appreciated my response and respected my truth. We haven't talked to each other since.

Fandom friend who would come in and out of my DMs, always inconsistent with communication. I decided to cut them out of my life after I met them at a con and the entire time I was with them they were incurious about me and...I don't know how to phrase it but I don't like to hang out with people who don't seem to enjoy my company. The meet-up along with a history of flakiness had me deciding this relationship wasn't worth investing in anymore.

Former coworker who I had a couple text exchanges with who I felt was fake as fuck. When I texted her she brushed me off. But the moment she heard my workplace was hiring suddenly she's texting me, asking me about my family. *eyeroll* I was definite with not engaging with her when a coworker of mine out of nowhere began asking why I wasn't responding to our former coworker's texts.
What business is it of yours?
So disgusted with that bitch trying to get a third person involved.
I'm not some sad desperate lonely girl who wants everyone's approval.
If you don't respect me or like me, don't fucking be a fake ass bitch who thinks they can use me whenever the fuck they want.

My older sister learned the hard fucking way that my patience and kindness has a limit. Didn't cut her out but when she crossed boundaries with me, she felt the effects of me putting up even more boundaries with her. We had to talk a lot and I gave her room to learn and grow because she started going to therapy when I told her I can't be her sole source of help/therapy.

And I generally am not in touch with my dad's side of the family because as a child I was SA'd and groomed to believe it was fine for COCSA to happen. And the family in general is cultish and materialistic.

Most justified: a guy in our hobby group had a warrant out for his arrest in another state for sexting a minor. Once that became known he was banned from official group meetups and and I dropped him even though we had previously been pretty good friends. I do kind of miss who I thought he was.

Most Recent: Roommate had to go. I was sick of cleaning up after her and half the time she didn't even buy her own food. I can live on my own, but I can't take care of her too. She got a 4 month notification that she needed to find a new place. After that she got a month to No Seriously I Mean It move out. After THAT she said she'd move out the first weekend, but Sunday night she hadn't packed hardly at all and had no plans and I flipped out and demanded she leave the next day. I threatened to get an actual eviction started and that finally got her moving. She spent all that night packing and still left half her stuff behind. Now instead of getting her stuff she's trash talking me to mutual friends. I get it, she's got to be VERY stressed and is losing a lot of her social circle, but I have been so fucking done for five months now I never want to think of her again. Just need her to take the last of her stuff, shouldn't be more than three months before I have to threaten to get it hauled away. Luckily I still have all the money I saved up for an eviction lawyer to hire someone to haul it away.

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