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⌈ Secret Post #6524 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What petty thing is frustrating you today?

[(Anonymous)]

I hate when people are flakey. Despite my better judgment, made plans with someone with a history of canceling plans at the last second. They just texted me with a lame excuse as to why they had to cancel brunch. What annoys me most is they were the one to invite me out.

I already told myself if this person cancels plans I'm going to lay it straight to them that we don't need to hang out outside of work.
I already told this person that I take friendship seriously and I don't like when people are flakey.

I am not someone who plays these weird social games where we make empty promises to hang out to give each other a false idea that we're closer than either of us are comfortable with.
Either you want to be my friend and be someone who holds true to their word or we're just friendly peers. I'm perfectly fine just being friendly peers.

I grew up lying a lot. I grew up with people who constantly made fake promises to me and broke them with casual shrugs.
In my efforts to be the type of person I want to be, I'm sincere and clear with the way I approach relationships to others in my life.
If I feel/experience dishonestly or discomfort with someone, especially someone I am just starting to get to know, I accept that this person is likely not someone I'll grow closer to and I will act accordingly.
Not as a means to hurt the other person, but to stop myself from false hopes of making better a relationship that is most likely not going to get any deeper.
I can't be liked by everyone and I don't have to like everyone. It doesn't mean there is malice there, just a respectful distance.

But I swear to fucking God, people should grow a fucking backbone and stop being flakey ass bitches. Respect other people's time.

Re: What petty thing is frustrating you today?

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry to hear that, anon. Life's too short for that kind of bullshit. You'd be perfectly justified in dropping the rope and investing in friends who respect you and your time.

Re: What petty thing is frustrating you today?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT
Thanks for a kind response. I've had a bad history of bad communication with people and a lot of unspoken resentment, and I legit want to do better. Learning to not read deeper into what's there and be thoughtful about my feelings and actions.

Disappointed because I enjoy talking to this coworker, but I need to hold actions accountable. My feelings matter too. I don't always have to be the nice, forgiving type 24/7, and I don't need to be mean/rude in putting up boundaries going forward.

Re: What petty thing is frustrating you today?

[(Anonymous)]

Discernment is a superpower and the world would probably be a better place if more of us learned it.

Re: What petty thing is frustrating you today?

[meadowphoenix]

i support your polite "we can stay this distance" text. one of the people i follow on instagram has a few posts where she details the type of "we don't need to be friends like that" messages when she needs to set a boundary, and i def think that should be something we do more of.

that said, you still might get weirdness at work because most people haven't encountered that directness, and polite demurrals is still considered the "kindest" way of dealing with people.