[ SECRET POST #6566 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6566 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[The Boy and the Heron]



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05. [SPOILERS for And Just Like That... (Sex and the City sequel)]




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06. [SPOILERS for Arcane Season 2]




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07. [WARNING for discussion of assault/abuse]




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08. [WARNING for discussion of noncon]




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09. [WARNING for discussion of sexual assault/abuse]















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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

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Yeah. I've seen people overstate the importance of their online relationships, but it feels like absolutely everything in offline life, for years, has been pressuring people to assume they're basically nothing. The online relationships that become something other people have to take seriously manage this feat despite the social disbelief - but they're becoming increasingly prevalent. I know quite a few people my age who met their spouse online. Three close friends in a poly triad met while role-playing, and it's been over a decade since they moved in together.

I will acknowledge that there is a pattern of people feeling super close to the people they only interact with online because in a sense the risk of saying something and having it be taken badly is lower: if you pour your heart out to someone and it freaks them out, generally that just results in not hanging out anymore. It's not like you're going to awkwardly run into them anywhere or have them badmouth you to friends and relatives. And if you tell them exactly how you're doing and they respond with empathy, wow, that worked out. More trust develops.

But ... on the one hand, attention is a precious commodity. Whether you're doing something in person or doing it over the internet, it's taking time from the only life you or they have. When shared voluntarily, that's pretty damn special. On the other hand, you don't really develop a sense of whether the bond you have with someone online would translate into their being willing to put themselves out for you in any other way. The mundane work of living together doesn't exist on the internet.

So - I guess what I'm saying is, don't sell short the partner who's physically there for you. It's easy for minor annoyances to eat away at the joy of literally being close enough to touch and help each other out, and for "but I always have fun with this other person who wants nothing but my company" to become a pattern that makes putting work into your marriage harder.