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⌈ Secret Post #6611 ⌋

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[Artemis Pebdani of "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia"]



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Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like this is the totally wrong crowd to ask, but any of y'all still out there trying to find a partner/love?

Idk I'm just lonely and I've tried joining local groups based on interests and going to local events but I never meet anyone. I am wondering if I should try the apps but it just seems sad? awkward? to jump into them for the first time in my 40s.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I'm turning 40 near the end of the year and have resigned myself to never finding anyone. I have a hard enough time keeping friendships let alone getting into a relationship.

Re: Dating

[tabaqui]

Dude. If you want to date/find a person, and there's an app or site or whatever that you think will help or looks interesting? GO FOR IT.
Who fucking cares that you're in your forties? So are tons of other people out there trying to find love and/or companionship.

Don't sell yourself short, just dive in! Keep yourself safe, of course, but why not? Life's too short.

And, to answer your question...fuck, no. I'm happy being divorced and on my own except for platonic friends (most of whom are online and therefore not in my space). I just do not have the interest or, frankly, emotional energy to deal with someone else's blah blah whatever. Books, cats, and online shenanigans 4evah!

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I'm 29, I do some dating, more with solo poly/fwb intentions than like, getting married. With the caveat that my situation is probably a bit different from yours, I'd recommend OkCupid. By far the least annoying dating app I've tried, and best at matching me with people I actually click with. Absolutely nothing sad about trying out dating apps, what would be sad is never trying something that you might benefit from! (Awkward possibly, but that's life.)

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

What's solo poly?

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

are there a lot of scammers on okcupid?

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I'm 63. I gave up.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

Yep, in my forties, still interested in finding someone.
If you want to try an app, I think you should. It's not sad or awkward. Everyone on there is looking for someone, so I think everyone is equal in that regard and the only thing that matters is that you treat people the way you would want to be treated.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

50, gave up long ago, and I'm better for it. Not even having dating as a factor underlying every interaction with another human being has freed me to work on myself, get things done, and enjoy the many friendships I've organically made. Sure, I'd like to get laid more often but honestly the juice ain't worth the squeeze.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

Go ahead and give it a try if it appeals to you. Plenty of people your age are on apps looking. The whole point of apps is to meet other people looking for the same thing as you, may as well give it a shot.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly? I found my now-wife in fandom (both of us were in our 30s). Think of it as a social club/shared hobby where you're guaranteed to have certain understandings built-in. It also meant we got to know each other quite well online before the in-person dating stared, which is 1) more fun and 2) significantly cheaper than conventional dating, imo.

Re: Dating

[paperghost]

This is late, but; I'm not in a position to date because I'm not financially stable or independent :/ Which is frustrating because I do want a partner, and having platonic friends isn't the same when most of them are taken and prioritize theirs over friends.

I'm much younger than you but apps really vary depending on where you live and what you're looking for. It doesn't hurt to just look, you can delete or pause your account and only matches can message you. The generic advice everyone gives though is to meet people organically through hobbies and interests, that's how I got together with my ex.