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⌈ Secret Post #6611 ⌋

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[fscom]

General comments:

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Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

Content warnings: pedophilia, school shootings, disturbing themes

So here's the thing...I teach high school literature in the American South and I'm convinced, in my heart and gut, that one of my teenage male students is a sociopath. His eyes are cold, no light in them. That sounds cliche but when you see that gaze in real life, that's the only way to describe it. You can tell, in a really gross intuitive way, that he gets off on upsetting female teachers. It's amusing for him. Deeply satisfying. He smirks and practically preens when he angers, saddens or scares adult women. He's brilliant, and bored by everything that isn't chaotic or harmful. His Dad is a cop, and every time he acts up, the admin at my school massages it away. But I'm scared of him. Truly. He looked up child porn on a school computer, and said he did it for fun, to see if he could. Why wasn't he expelled? I don't know, and I'm so angry and feel so helpless. He doesn't even need my class to graduate, doesn't even want to be in it, but won't switch out. I think it's because he knows he bothers me, and he's having fun with that.
At this point, I have a handful of months with him, and I'm dreading it. How do I survive this? How does one deal with an adolescent psychopath?

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

sounds like a kid who knows he can get away with things BECAUSE his dad's a cop

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

This feels beyond FS's paygrade to provide assistance with. I'd advise against taking actions recommended to you by random internet anons. Do you know anyone who's a lawyer or something that could help you with your legal options re: the admin?

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

Call CPS. Just explain the situation and they might be able to advise a course of action. They might not, but there is absolutely no harm in calling and talking to them.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

I’m just commenting to help make this wall of triggery text collapse.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

You need to talk with the other teachers at your school. It doesn't matter whether he's actually a psychopath or not, it matters that his behavior is terrible. And if he can look up child porn on a school computer, that's a serious criminal issue. Don't talk to admin, talk to teachers. Talk to child welfare if you need to, and especially if he showed anyone else.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

If you have proof he looked up child porn, contact the FBI. He can get in huge trouble for that, and if he does that may very well take care of the problem of putting up with him in your class.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

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tl;dr YTA

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

You can't diagnose sociopathy or psychopathy in adolescents, that is because the way the human brain forms. Too many false positives.

You can brand a kid a real bad seed, if you want; I'd call it very unprofessional to do that, but you can if you want. Probably what they need is a good role model, and that is part of your job, so keep on teaching them to the best of your ability including in basic empathy. More teens and tweens could do with lessons in basic empathy anyway.

What should you do if you still have concerns? You've already talked to your principal, and presumably the kid's parents. What you do is document every single interaction you have. Document it on paper. Write it down. Keep it dispassionate and judgement and value free, stick to the facts not the appearance off the facts. Speak to your union rep about it. Speak to an employment lawyer if you have to. And, if worst comes to worst, change schools. You're a goddamn adult, you can get a different job if you want.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

Are you new to teaching? Do you think you are the first teacher to be trolled by a student? This is not the first kid who discovered the joy of making teach or coach uncomfortable, they certainly will not be the last. They won't even be the last you'll have. In fact if you've only one in your current cohort, you are doing better than most high schools. Adolescents push boundaries and try to provoke emotional reactions, that is just the nature of the beast.

Do your damn job, get them to graduation and then forget about them.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

I'd try very hard not to react the way he wants you to, so as not to reward him. Be boring, don't act shocked or scared. Watch some cop interrogations on YouTube and see how they listen to people's confession of murder and worse without batting an eye. They adapt a demeanor of polite but mild interest. You can be politely disinterested, as if you're listening to your neighbor's anecdote about their hemorrhoid trouble.


Document every incident with dates and times, stating only the facts of what happened - NOT your feelings or opinions. Not because your feelings and opinions are invalid, but because you want the evidence to read like a report. Keep this record just in case.

If your school has a counselor, maybe speak to them regarding your concerns about the student without mentioning any diagnosis labels. Describe his behavior, and the cp search. Maybe drop a mention of the school's liability, having such a thing on their computers.

Re: Teacher Problems

[(Anonymous)]

Take him out first.

Things You've Done

[philstar22]

What recent things are you proud of yourself for? What recent things have you accomplished?


I've been to mentally and physically tired to work out in months. But I went to the gym today and swam. I'm pretty tired, but it felt good.

Re: Things You've Done

[(Anonymous)]

I got bloodwork and a mammogram done, both things I've been putting off for years because of fear. Not quite a real phobia, but close to that level. And I managed it all without panicking. Lots of sweating and shaky hands and legs, but I held it together until I got to my car and then just sat and did breathing exercises for a bit.

Re: Things You've Done

[(Anonymous)]

I went out and got my UV lights for my plaque psoriasis this morning even though I didn't really want to get out of bed.

Re: Things You've Done

[(Anonymous)]

I rearranged and redesigned my room, which is the basement family room with a little kitchenette. It was not easy but it looks so good and it’s finally setup in a way that works for me. Instead of trying to make myself live to fit the space, I changed the space to fit the way I live. It sounds cliche? or too buzzwordy? but it’s so true. Every article of clothing is consistently put away because every piece has a designated place. Same with all my electronics, books, desk items, and knickknacks. I only bought three things: a new desk (with more drawers but also much smaller drawers so organization is easier), a bench with storage where I can put all my folded clothes that aren’t socks or underwear (they’re in drawer tray thingies in the drawer under the wardrobe), and a new dog crate that’s a giant piece of furniture with a solid wood top so I had a place to put my printer and my favorite books between some cool bookends. I also have one corner that’s a complete gym with mini treadmill, a rowing machine, a full body weight machine, weight bench, free weights, and balance boards. The gym area has been built over the last three years and the weight machine is the latest and last piece. I haven’t finished assembling it but that’s because life went sideways around the time I got it.

Re: Things You've Done

[kaijinscendre]

I made the ugliest scarf in the world but it was to my niece's exact specifications. But man is it ugly.

Re: Things You've Done

[himejoshiheart]

wrote over 3k today, IIRC. still out of pace w/ my gywo goal but ill get there

Re: Things You've Done

[(Anonymous)]

Didn't overdue my siblings' birthdays as a way to passively aggressively let them know I love them but am sad they never acknowledge my birthday (my birthday was last month and I have 2 siblings with birthdays in February).

Got the oil changed to my car right as it hit the 5k miles mark on Saturday. I usually wait until I start to feel guilty that the change oil light has been on for days/weeks whenever I drive my car lol

Re: Things You've Done

[(Anonymous)]

Taking care of my cat after surgery. I'm a great cat mom!!

Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like this is the totally wrong crowd to ask, but any of y'all still out there trying to find a partner/love?

Idk I'm just lonely and I've tried joining local groups based on interests and going to local events but I never meet anyone. I am wondering if I should try the apps but it just seems sad? awkward? to jump into them for the first time in my 40s.

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I'm turning 40 near the end of the year and have resigned myself to never finding anyone. I have a hard enough time keeping friendships let alone getting into a relationship.

Couples paying bills: a rant and a crackpot theory

[(Anonymous)]

I've been in banking for my entire adult life, and there's this super common thing I see that has slowly driven me crazy.

So, Person A does all of the finances and takes care of all of the bills, but the couple has made a choice to put everything in Person B's name. This means that the only person we can talk to is the one who has no idea what's going on. And the person who does know what's going on doesn't understand why we can't just talk to them about all of it, and gets pissed, because "I'm the one who pays all the bills!" All right, man, that's cool, but you don't own a single one of the accounts that those bills come out of, and your name isn't even on the shit that you're paying.

Now, you might say, "perhaps that person has bad credit, and that's why they're not on anything." Fair point! And every now and then, that's the case. But generally speaking, in those cases, the person is very chill and understanding. The kind of people I'm talking about tend to have one, maybe two things that they're actually on (generally something they basically have to be, like the mortgage), and so it's easy to see that their credit is perfectly fine.

So, here's what I'm starting to think: it's a weird kink, whether they realize it or not. It's not your traditional financial domination scenario, because the money is all in the other person's name, and that person can take it and do whatever they want with it, at any time. Instead, it's a weird combination of enjoying willful submission (the owner of the accounts has to choose, on a regular basis, to cede control to their partner), and the humiliation of then needing the owner's participation and permission before being able to conduct the business that they're supposedly in charge of.

...or maybe they just aren't thinking any of this shit through, idk.

Venting

[(Anonymous)]

For all your venting needs