[ SECRET POST #6798 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6798 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Netflix Pride and Prejudice 2025]



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[Great British Menu, series 8, chef Adam Simmonds]



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Comments

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[(Anonymous)]

What also gets me is when you try giving people an out, and they insist "no, really, I'll have it by the weekend!" until you finally just give up on them.

I know one of the reasons it happens is that you really do mean to get around to it, and I know because I was that person. I still feel awful about it. You have to be honest with yourself. You're never going to do the thing.

[(Anonymous)]

"It's just fandom!"

Yeah, and it's also just basic common courtesy to shoot one text to let people know "sorry something came up" so they're not waiting and relying on you to be there.

And no, it's not more polite to keep people's hopes up so they have to scramble to replace you at the end instead of replacing you mid-way with plenty of time to spare.

[(Anonymous)]

Ooh yeah, that annoys me too. Like BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF and to others about your ability to follow through on stuff. I've heard people say that oh, they don't want to let people down, they don't want to leave people in the lurch... I don't believe that. Because if you sincerely wanted to be as little trouble as possible, you'd admit you aren't going to make that deadline or turn in your fic/art on time instead of lying through your teeth multiple times and then ghosting.

You want to avoid confrontation and being held accountable, which is cowardly and immature.

[(Anonymous)]

I know there are a lot of reasons conflict avoidance transfers over to a person's entire existence but I mourn the moment we decided as a society that simple basic normal human interaction was equivalent to a conflict.

People you were planning to see irl will be mildly disappointed but not angry and violent if you have to back out of your engagement, I promise. Normalize that, please.

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's a case where people have Big Feelings about stuff like this, and they see that as a valid excuse to just sort of chicken out. Being neurodivgent, or introverted, or anxious doesn't negate your personal responsibilities when you've voluntarily made a commitment like that. If you can't do it, the decent thing to do is notify whoever you've promised your participated to, apologize and try not to do that again. Maybe by recognizing that these kinds of fandom events just aren't for you, or that you're not in a good place to join in right now, and by not fooling yourself into wish fulfillment stuff where you say you'll be there and hope that by saying it aloud it'll magically come true.

But a lot of people don't like to hear that, and it upsets them. First hand experience.

[(Anonymous)]

You're so real for this OP