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⌈ Secret Post #6806 ⌋

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TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

My best friend's mom very suddenly got taken to the hospital with a brain haemorrhage. By now she's stable but it's looking pretty bad. I've known her all my life and I'm just so terribly helpless. My friend is completely devastated- At least she has some other family around her but it's such a huge shock and everything is just so completely uncertain now. I try to support her but there's not much I can do except listen to her. At the same time, I'm also pretty depressed because of the shock, the helplessness and my general depression I already have. And I try to distract myself but anytime I don't think about it for a second, as soon as I think of it again it comes with a massive wave of guilt and self loathing that I actually managed to forget about it shortly while my friend does not have that luxury.
Everything has changed now.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[philstar22]

Oh no, that's awful. I'm so, so sorry for you and your friend and her family.

Having lost a parent in the past few years, just having people be there and expressing sympathy is so helpful. Even if you don't know what to say or do, the fact that you are there is great. Just take your cues from your friend. And just sit there with her, be there with her.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[volkameria]

Oh that's horrible, I'm so so sorry you and your friend are going through that.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

Honey. Triage. You have to secure your own mask. You cannot help your friend if you can't get yourself taken care of first.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

Yep. I'm trying my best - I'm breaking down a little when on my own but that's okay, I'll get a grip eventually.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

And I try to distract myself but anytime I don't think about it for a second, as soon as I think of it again it comes with a massive wave of guilt and self loathing that I actually managed to forget about it shortly while my friend does not have that luxury.

As someone who has been through something similar, it's very likely that your friend is having exactly the same emotions. Like, when it was happening, I accidentally splashed water on myself while I was washing my hands, had to deal with that, and then realised I'd forgotten what was going on for a few minutes and felt horribly guilty.

Look after yourself and listening to your friend is support - so many "friends" just vanish when something like this happens.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you. Yeah, it's a really weird feeling - especially since for me, life does go on fairly normally, which makes the whiplash feeling every time even worse. But yeah, can'r help her if I lose it as well. I think I just need to get over the shock first because it was truly unexpected.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

When something so big happens, everyone feels the impact. I'm sorry, nonny. I hope you and your friend can somehow find some peace in all of this, even if it's not right away.

Re: TW illness and possible death

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you.