[ SECRET POST #6894 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6894 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I mean I don't expect the child to be able to do any of that. Like sure when they're older they can hire people to do those emotionally draining tasks, but what money is an 8 year old meant to have access to?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know if you're referring to a specific person, but 8 years old is a bit young for many caretaking duties to be imposed upon an individual. That's the kind of thing that would probably have to wait until the child was a teenager, and even then, wealth means that their parents have a lot more easy access to people who can handle stuff like childcare, housekeeping, etc. Wealthy people have those systems in place long before they have kids.

[(Anonymous)]

da

.... are you under some impression that families DON'T make 8 year olds perform caretaking duties for the younger sibs? because i hate to burst your bubble but that shit starts as soon as you can walk and talk when you parents really, really don't fucking care about you as a person.

[(Anonymous)]

If you're saying "children can be abused regardless of wealth class" you're right.

But the comment said daughters are expected to take care of everyone and that's a different thing? Quoting the original comment here: "social expectation" can be shitty but is not inherently abuse, you seem to be talking about something else?

[(Anonymous)]

No, I never said anything like that. Maybe you should put down whatever baggage you're bringing to this discussion and read more carefully.

[(Anonymous)]

This thread is a mess. It reads like you are trying to fan flames but everyone else is having a perfectly normal conversation.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt - Yep. Not sure if it's someone doing that whole bad faith interpretation thing again, or someone with a legit chip on their shoulder and poor reading comprehension.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not sure you understand 1. abusive families, and 2. that other emotionally draining things can be imposed on daughters that don't involve literal physical care taking that as I said: wealth does not prevent or stop. But aigh't.

[(Anonymous)]

No, I understand that just fine. Reread my comment and you'll find absolutely no indication that I said abuse cannot happen to rich peoples' kids. That's just something you and other nonnies are pulling out of thin air for Reasons.

[(Anonymous)]

An eight year old can help keep the ledger of expenses for the family farm. An eight year old can cook a lot of the meals. They can clean, make sure their sibs did their homework, make sure they’re ready for school the next day, can supervise bath time for their sibs, and can help clean the house. Not to mention the daily chores (milk the cows, gather the eggs, feed the cats and dogs, sweep the steps, help sort laundry…the list is long!). Family farms required all hands, pretty much all the time. Produce needed picked, gardens needed hoed, cattle needed to move from one pasture to the next, alfalfa needed baling, corn needed to be chopped and put in a silo, and I could certainly drive a tractor at eight.

So, yeah, as the eldest daughter, I don’t remember when I wasn’t expected to help out. My parents weren’t abusive, they were just very busy.

[(Anonymous)]

From the way you phrase it, with farms needing all hands, this doesn't seem to be the "eldest daughter, specifically, unlike others, is expected to take care of everyone else" thing like the original anon is talking about? What you say sounds more like "all children are expected to help with chores" which is a different topic from eldest daughters being singled out as caretakers regardless of wealth level

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

There was a very interesting study that found men who had sisters growing up were far less likely to do their share of housework as adult husbands. So claiming all children get the same amount of chores is dubious.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt but that will obviously vary from family to family. I didn't grow up on a farm or anything like that, so our chores were just normal household ones. I've got two siblings, a brother and a sister. We all did our own laundry. I was in charge of cleaning the bathroom, mopping floors and vacuuming. My brother did lawn mowing and seasonal yard work like leaf raking and snow shoveling, though I'd also help with the shoveling because we had a longish driveway and it went faster with two. My sister did dishes and other cleaning when she got old enough, and took over bathroom cleaning because I started doing more cooking since my mother never really liked cooking.

To this day, my brother is one of the tidiest men I've ever known. Not compulsively so, but he keeps his apartment clean, including the bathroom... and that can be a rarity among men, iykyk. I'm a much better cook than he is, but he knows the basics and knows how to shop, meal plan and feed himself without living off of pizza rolls or something lame like that.

[(Anonymous)]

Nobody claimed every child gets the same amount of chores though? One anon said all hands are expected to help out on a farm, and the reply was that "all hands are expected to help" doesn't refute, or address, the original claim about eldest sisters, specifically, across the wealth spectrum, being expected to take care of everyone, and wealth having nothing to do with how much is expected of them.

Idk, it's a bizarro land thread where people seem very resistant to the idea that wealth gives privileges and advantages that people don't get without it.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, Tom Holland will be a wonderful husband.