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[ SECRET POST #6902 ]

⌈ Secret Post #6902 ⌋

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Sometimes it feels like we get anons on here informing everyone they're going to kill themselves like... every few days. People try to empathize and sometimes it's taken well, sometimes they get angrily ranted at for not being able to provide unspecified help to the anon. Almost none of the threads are warned for, either.

It's not an ideal state of things but I'm not surprised many people are fatigued of the cycle.

I guess I see that as a bit of a separate thing to how people react to normal secrets, but you're probably right that it's connected at some level.

My memory is that there was a lot of suicidal commenting a while ago, maybe a year or more? Lately, I think it's mostly just the one anon who I've chatted to a few times and doesn't seem to get combative like that.

I don't recognize this anon, so it's really hard to know what kinds of treatment they're reacting to. (And sorry, nonny, I am so tempted to refer to you affectionately as Eeyore anon for lack of a better nickname. If you see this, let me know a better way of referring to you!)

Oh I thought you meant shifts in how people empathize with posts like OP's, not secrets in general.

But nah, this suicidal stuff was way more recent than that. Definitely remember a post a little while ago, like a month or two? where philstar or kajinscendre(?) or one of the other logged in users that usually reply to those threads got ranted at for being unhelpful or being unable to materially help a random suicidal internet anon in an unspecified way. I don't know if that anon was this one, probably not, they don't sound similar? But people are for sure responding less and less in general to that sort of topic.

Not ideal, but it's the shift we're in right now

That was me.
I'm trying to stop being an Eeyore here but I don't have a lot of connection with people in reality, so I come here sometimes.

Why did you rant at people trying to be supportive? What did you hope to achieve with that? Also what form of support are you looking for when you post suicidal comments?

Sorry, I've gotten trolled or standoffish comments before.
I guess I'm looking for any kind of support because it's pretty non-existent in my own reality.

Please look into therapy. Depending on where you live, there are resources for sliding scale/cheap or even free therapy. I used a fee therapy program for a few years.

OP is already in therapy.

I suggest asking for therapist for advice on socialization, both in real life and online. FS is not giving you what you need. It's a space for anonymous fan confessions and wank, not a community.

I do not have money for socialization in reality.
My family is unhelpful.
My therapy is not that helpful. It's thirty minutes every two weeks and it's all I can do because weekly virtual sessions don't work for me on this computer and I have a flip cell phone with no internet.

Libraries are free. So are churches, some liberal denominations accept different beliefs. Every job I've had includes an employee-only break room where people talk to each other.

Look into a different therapist, 30 minute sessions every two weeks is not the norm and you won't get much help in such a short time frame. I used to have an hour every week with my free therapy. If therapy isn't an option, download self-help books for free on Z-library or archive.org.

Look into a phone service for your flip phone model.

This is learned helplessness.

I cannot walk to a library; they are too far from where i live. I would need money to take the bus to a library. I live too far from a synagogue and I can't relate to men my age with my life. My phone is paid for by a relative. My therapy is paid for by Medicaid.

i'm reading a self-help book now.

OP
Eeyore anon is fine, I dubbed myself that. I don't care. :)

Yeah I have definitely tried to he supportive or helpful to a suicidal anon and gotten an angry aggressive reply back, so I tend to stay away now. Plus I find this shit incredibly triggering and it is never warned for or tagged. I've actually been thinking I should take a break from this place for a bit because the suicide threats are really not good for my own mental health.

OP
Sorry. I forgot about trigger warnings. I don't submit a lot of secrets in general.

No there were warnings on this secret, you're good! I entered the conversation fully prepared today.

And I don't mean to imply you're the same anon that has gotten aggressive and mean with me, just that I've been burned in the past so if you get crickets or not many replies experiences like mine could be a factor. Nothing to do with you or meant to be an insult or anything.

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