[ SECRET POST #6902 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6902 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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05. [WARNING for discussion of incest]




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06. [WARNING for discussion of suicide?]




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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #985.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

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[iff_and_xor]

There have definitely been multiple shifts here over time. And I find that sometimes there are just shitty days where we get visited by a motivated troll or two or (maybe more commonly) multiple people are just on edge and less pleasant.

You don't need to say, of course, but if you feel like explaining more specifically what kind of bad reactions you get now, I'd be interested. My experience is that I just get a lot less reaction. More crickets. Which I find difficult in a different way.

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[(Anonymous)]

i feel people mock me.

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[iff_and_xor]

I do see a range of things from what I'd consider to be friendly snark to outright contempt. Sometimes it's more cruel and sometimes (for me) it doesn't even have to be that cruel if it hits just the right sore spot.

I guess what still makes me come back to FS is that even when there are assholes around, I feel like I can rely on at least a few people to chime in with thoughtfulness or compassion. Most "shameful" secrets seem to responses reassuring OP that it's okay or not a big deal or they can relate, which isn't something I necessarily see elsewhere online.

Anyway, I don't blame you if you need to take a break or just say goodbye. But I hope you can find other social outlets, whether that's online or in person. I'm a pretty hermit-like person who'd often rather be alone, but I'm coming to appreciate that a little bit of human connection is really important for keeping my depression under control.

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm severely lacking in human connections these days. That's partly why I keep coming here.

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[iff_and_xor]

Ditto, honestly, which is part of why I get maybe weirdly protective and worried about it.

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[(Anonymous)]

From one lonely person to another, turning to FS may what's hurting you. DW isn't as active as LJ was in the aughts, and FS is mostly full of rude, condescending anons. I see less namies every year because of the dogpiling and lack of reading comprehension.

You're better off trying to interact with others in namespace, whether it's making an account on here and joining a friending meme or blogging, or trying the Tumblr tags or subreddits for your fandom, Bluesky, Discord servers, anything like that. My experiences on social media were less toxic than here because people are *logged in*.

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[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, sadly I have to agree. I've been part of another anon community that has kind of gone the same way. For whatever reason, some anons get straight up hateful over named accounts, and will basically bully them off the site. Which is so weird? But yeah, even if you're anon, it's discouraging to get shitty replies and people skimming your comment and missing the point completely.

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[(Anonymous)]

yeah, i get crickets too, and it makes me feel even lonelier.

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[iff_and_xor]

Right, that's not fun. Sometimes I think I'd prefer some of the nastier reactions over just nothing at all. I mean, it's a secret for a reason -- I was already expecting some level of shame and disapproval.

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[(Anonymous)]

Different anon here, but I agree too. I feel like I get:

a) No response
b) Someone twisting what I said/stretching to fill in gaps and interpreting it in the worst way possible so they can attack
c) Condescending, rude response

And then it's like, why even bother commenting or making secrets at all?

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[iff_and_xor]

Yeah, I see all three of those too. I try to keep from sticking my nose in where it's not wanted or coming to the defense of someone who doesn't need it, but maybe there is a good reason to be more active in calling out that kind of unpleasantness when it happens.

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[(Anonymous)]

Yes, I posted a similar list of responses several weeks ago. Crickets, rudeness, or misinterpretation.

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[(Anonymous)]

Yep. I've considered breathing life in this comm by talking about my fandom because it's not discussed here, but what's the point? I'll have people put words in my mouth. Case being hands-off and not IP banning recurring trolls may be the problem.

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[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. I totally get it. Some of the comments here are really the embodiment of the tweet about someone simply saying that they like pancakes and then getting mobbed and attacked because why do you hate waffles you bigot.

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[(Anonymous)]

Case not bothering to check IPs and just straight up deleting comments as they wish is the problem. They just do whatever they like with this place, no rules whatsoever. A time to ban was when some trolls pestered named accounts around 2 years ago and that time passed, along with the named accounts. Now Case just deletes comments regardless of them violating the rules or not. It's a bit hard to notice as there's no "deleted" line left when they delete the whole thread so you have to be there to catch it.
So it's inconsistentsy that's the problem. Case is very hands on.
Idk why I'm even writing in the old thread.

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[(Anonymous)]

Are you the anon with a weird grudge towards Case? I have issues with FS, but if you hate it that much, go elsewhere. Tumblr and Twitter have anonymous fandom confession blogs for secrets.
Compared to other mostly-anon comms, FS is more free. Mods will swoop in for using a certain typing style at another I used, god.

"A time to ban was when some trolls pestered named accounts around 2 years ago"

When was this? What happened? Who was pestered and do you have links?

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[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes it feels like we get anons on here informing everyone they're going to kill themselves like... every few days. People try to empathize and sometimes it's taken well, sometimes they get angrily ranted at for not being able to provide unspecified help to the anon. Almost none of the threads are warned for, either.

It's not an ideal state of things but I'm not surprised many people are fatigued of the cycle.

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[iff_and_xor]

I guess I see that as a bit of a separate thing to how people react to normal secrets, but you're probably right that it's connected at some level.

My memory is that there was a lot of suicidal commenting a while ago, maybe a year or more? Lately, I think it's mostly just the one anon who I've chatted to a few times and doesn't seem to get combative like that.

I don't recognize this anon, so it's really hard to know what kinds of treatment they're reacting to. (And sorry, nonny, I am so tempted to refer to you affectionately as Eeyore anon for lack of a better nickname. If you see this, let me know a better way of referring to you!)

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[(Anonymous)]

Oh I thought you meant shifts in how people empathize with posts like OP's, not secrets in general.

But nah, this suicidal stuff was way more recent than that. Definitely remember a post a little while ago, like a month or two? where philstar or kajinscendre(?) or one of the other logged in users that usually reply to those threads got ranted at for being unhelpful or being unable to materially help a random suicidal internet anon in an unspecified way. I don't know if that anon was this one, probably not, they don't sound similar? But people are for sure responding less and less in general to that sort of topic.

Not ideal, but it's the shift we're in right now

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[(Anonymous)]

That was me.
I'm trying to stop being an Eeyore here but I don't have a lot of connection with people in reality, so I come here sometimes.

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[(Anonymous)]

Why did you rant at people trying to be supportive? What did you hope to achieve with that? Also what form of support are you looking for when you post suicidal comments?

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[(Anonymous)]

OP
Eeyore anon is fine, I dubbed myself that. I don't care. :)

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[(Anonymous)]

Yeah I have definitely tried to he supportive or helpful to a suicidal anon and gotten an angry aggressive reply back, so I tend to stay away now. Plus I find this shit incredibly triggering and it is never warned for or tagged. I've actually been thinking I should take a break from this place for a bit because the suicide threats are really not good for my own mental health.

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[(Anonymous)]

OP
Sorry. I forgot about trigger warnings. I don't submit a lot of secrets in general.

(frozen comment) ayrt - you're good!

[(Anonymous)]

No there were warnings on this secret, you're good! I entered the conversation fully prepared today.

And I don't mean to imply you're the same anon that has gotten aggressive and mean with me, just that I've been burned in the past so if you get crickets or not many replies experiences like mine could be a factor. Nothing to do with you or meant to be an insult or anything.