[ SECRET POST #6909 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6909 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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03. [WARNING for discussion of eating disorders, probably]




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04. [WARNING for discussion of trauma, etc]




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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

You don't have to censor word or use euphemisms on here, you know.

[(Anonymous)]

I do it for me.

[iff_and_xor]

You don’t have to explain, of course, but I would be interested if you felt like saying more about why you do that and how it makes things better or easier for you.

[(Anonymous)]

It creates distance and doesn't trigger the sad parts of the brain, minimizes associations, as in link between language and feelings. Also highlights how seriously I take this crime, so it's a bit performative.
For the record I don't have a sad backstory beyond harassement that almost every girl has faced in her life and some really unfortunate media, like that scene in Game of Thrones, you know the one.

[iff_and_xor]

Thanks, I really appreciate the explanation.

You’ve got me thinking more about euphemisms in general now… to what extent they’re for the speaker versus the listener and how people interpret euphemistic language as an indicator of how seriously the speaker takes the subject in question.

Things to ponder and try to gently ask other people, I guess.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt
I'm sorry I answered you. Multiple anons jumped on me, and I feel like I ended up making excuses when I didn't have to. I was hesitant to check the answers and not checking the thread would be better for me. I thought someone might answer the actual comment I made, and not just smell the blood, go for the throat type of thing. Please don't ask more people about it publically because the type of person who is sensitive to wording is a sensitive person in general or a very young person used to Twitch and YT censorship.

[iff_and_xor]

I’m sorry my question set that off. I thought I worded it with as much reassurance as I could that you didn’t need to answer if it made you uncomfortable or was too sensitive a subject for discussion here.

I also thought I did answer the actual comment you made, as did at least two other people. Not necessarily in agreement, but in respect and good faith and addressing what you said directly.

I will think a little harder about how I engage with people on something like this.

[(Anonymous)]

you really didn't say or do anything wrong. some people are just fragile little flowers who get offended if somebody breathes in their direction.

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting, I am a survivor of SA and I don't find the euphemisms necessary, I find them somewhat irritating in fact. They're not offensive to me either, more just strange. Often when I see people saying stuff like "gr*pe" it comes across more like joking around about the topic than how you explained it here. I don't mind jokes about heavy subjects myself, so that doesn't personally bother me, but it is not something I would do.

[paperghost]

Same. I'm not triggered by these words by themselves, and I'm ok with dark humor depending on the context. But seeing phrases like "graped" on sites that don't force censorship is pure whiplash.

[(Anonymous)]

Yep, it comes across to me as the opposite of taking it seriously.

[(Anonymous)]

It's interesting how different we all are.
grape anon

[(Anonymous)]

Wait, what? Calling rape "grape" is so infantilizing, it seems like not taking it seriously at all.

[(Anonymous)]

+1
And even if you're avoiding triggering people by outright using the word "rape," there's less harsh descriptors that mean the same way. "Abused" "taken advantage of," etc. If someone told me I was "graped by a pdf file" that would offend me more than just saying the actual words.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't care about your opinion or the SA anon opinion. Your opinions are just that - opinions. I have mine, you have yours. Don't act like your way of writing is any better than mine.
grape anon

[(Anonymous)]

Woof, that was a big ol' swing from 'I take it very seriously' to 'I don't care about the opinions of SA survivors'

[(Anonymous)]

And?

[(Anonymous)]

???
I thought this was a neutral discussion? No need to get defensive and snide. Of course we're all sharing opinions. I never said one way was wrong or right, just shared my thoughts as someone affected by censorship of triggering words, since you shared yours.