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I might finally watch Yuri!!! On Ice now that the western fandom for it has long since died down

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I had to switch neurologists due to new job being too far away from old one. I am not impressed with the new one. I met him a few weeks ago and he prescribed a new rescue med, an injectable version of sumatriptan. Only he clearly hadn't read my chart. Because it turns out triptans are bad for hemiplegic migraines. And can even possibly cause a stroke.

So now I'm just feeling a lot worse and freaking out.

It's really difficult to find players for (game) in my country, so when I saw that this guy played I didn't care that he was a few years younger than me, because it was just to play, and that was clear when I said I was looking to find other players by making a Discord server exclusively for the game.

Now I'm noticing some warning signs I wished I had taken note sooner. Quiet moment in the game "You're not saying anything....", don't talk with him for a day "You don't like talking to *me* much huh.". Finally made the server and invited the only other player for this game. "Damn, not this guy!". He's starting to unnerve me.

We had a good convo or two, but I think I give up, and I'm ready to delete the server and block him from both discord and steam. Am I overreacting? Would ghosting him be better?

Reading your post gave me, like.... How do I put this into words. Sympathy pains? It brought back memories of when I have been in that same type of situation, and reminded me of how much it suuuuuuucks. I'm sorry you're dealing with that. It's frustrating and difficult how hard it can be to make friends online, because you never know if you're dealing with someone who is rational, or someone who is going to get overly attached and jealous and just not be able to handle it when you don't want to spend every free moment with them. I have a doormat personality, so I get myself into those situations and have a hard time extracting myself. I don't think that blocking him is too much, honestly. With someone like that, it's unlikely to get better. Typically, it only gets worse. Some people have a hard time understanding boundaries, and at this point in my life, I'm too old and tired to help them learn. (And some of them refuse to learn.) I wish you luck.

I'm sorry. That sounds frustrating. I really hope you can find some people who play that game who are actually fun.

ghost him asap. i wound up in a situation like this that escalated HARD because he was some 18yo (i was 28? at the time) who latched on due to never having any genuine/strong friendships, and i didn't feel comfortable saying no to him. he made secret accounts and found me on social media, used to get angry if i was online on discord and not talking to him, and eventually started harming himself and threatening to do worse because i was unavailable when he wanted my attention.

Eh, that's a bit outdated - in people who have complex migraine, both hemiplegic and other types, triptans are often used. And in some people with hemiplegic migraine, triptans are now being used. Some people find them really good, others have no result. So I wouldn't write him off based just on that.

Well, I did have a bad reaction personally. It turned the migraine massively worse to the point I thought about going to the ER earlier and had to leave work early. I'm not going to write him off, I think he just made a mistake and missed it. I do think he should have at least mentioned it as a possibility.

Yeah, definitely a possibility and he should know what happened, but I agree that you shouldn't write him off based on that.

Every single holiday, literally every single one, we have to go through the whole song and dance of my brother talking about how he doesn't want to come and he hates holidays and why can't he stay home. And honestly we'd all be fine with him staying home, but he lives with our elderly parents and literally lives there to help out with things like driving them to family get togethers. He lives there rent free, doesn't have to pay for food or anything, all he has to do is drive our parents to appointments (which we just found out he isn't doing) and family get togethers like twice a year. On top of it just being lazy and annoying, it sucks to have him vent about how much seeing us is a drag and how much he hates coming to see us.

I know it's just his massive amounts of anxiety speaking, but it sucks and really ruins my mood whenever this shit starts. I woke up this morning to a series of texts about how he doesn't want to come and could I drive out to pick up our parents. Horrible frustrating way to wake up. I managed not to reply with the first ten texts I wrote and just wrote back that if he wants to drive them here and turn around and go home and then drive back some time after Christmas to pick them up then that is fine, but I'm not doing it. Sure, it's fine for him to expect me to make a 4 hour drive (2 there, 2 back) in a day so he can avoid seeing us but for some reason that was too much to ask of him.

I'm sorry. that sounds really annoying.

That sounds annoying as hell, OP. My guess is your brother feels some sense of shame about being a freeloader still living with his parents, but damn, this is not the way to handle it. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Sorry op but on the other hand if he IS caring for your parents maybe he thinks I am doing my part for them 363/365 days so can’t they pick them up twice if these meetings are so important to them and I also get his side of things.

No. Part of caring for them is bringing them to functions the parents want to go to.

OP wrote: "He lives there rent free, doesn't have to pay for food or anything, all he has to do is drive our parents to appointments (which we just found out he isn't doing) and family get togethers like twice a year.

If his main job is to drive his parents and he's not doing that, then clearly he's NOT "doing [his] part for them 363/365 days" like you said. So basically, what you said doesn't apply here at all.

The pimple I'm nursing right at my lip line near my nose needs to hurry the fuck up and be done. I feel like I'm using a whole pack of pimple patches on this one spot.

Felt the silly bastard growing Sunday. Knew to clean area and cover with a pimple patch and not try to squeeze out the pus, the thing hurt a lot! Well covered it Sunday and Monday. It was hurting a lot yesterday and I knew it was due to the pus clogged inside. Took off the pimple patch, gave the clogged area a push and the gross ass white bit came out. Not sure if I was able to squeeze out all the nasty stuff, but the area stopped feeling sensitive to the touch.

Clear liquid was still leaking out so I've kept a patch on diligently, but considering it's at my lip line and close to my nose, I constantly have to check or replace the patch.

I hate when I'm trying to nurse it away keeps getting reclogged up and I spend weeks trying to clear it up!

Been getting pimples near my nose and mouth areas, especially at my lip line area, when I'm close to my period. Hate it so much.

That sucks, I'm sorry. I get them near my nose and chin during when I would have gotten my period before as well. I've been told by my dermatologist that the ones in that area are hormone related.

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