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Is this an actual thing or just ragebait?

I've seen a few reels/tiktoks responding to people basically saying they don't wash their ass or defending having skid marks, often tying this to work and maleness. The idea is that people who work (implied to only mean blue-collar physical work) will be smelly or have skid marks and therefore women should just accept that in men and see it as a sign of hard work.

Aside from the fact that not all men are blue-collar workers, do people just not take showers when they get home from work? Like unless you actually live on your job site, why do you not just shower when you get home. And wash your ass in the shower.

I work a nasty, gross physical job where I get extremely filthy every shift and I shower as soon as I get home, ass included...

Honestly, I'd never heard of not washing one's ass as being a thing until a few years ago, but apparently some "alpha males" (in quotes for a reason) think it's... gay? And manly? Which is weird, I can't fathom not trying to be clean down there.

And not taking a shower has little to do with it (though yes, you should still wash your ass). I have sweat like hell for hours and still managed to have clean underwear at the end of the day. It's definitely NOT a sign of hard work. Skid marks means you 1) have unaddressed digestive/medical issues 2) weren't taught how to properly wipe yourself or 3) you're a gross little turd who thinks it's funny to make a woman clean up after you (let's face it, those types expect this of their wife). 2 can be overcome but there's no excuse for 3. (Though honestly, I wouldn't bother with a 2 either. Not my responsibility to teach them to be an adult, and dingleberries are neither sexy nor hygenic.)

Okay, major TMI, I'll avoid details, but I do occasionally have some digestive issues + muscular dysfunction related to my disability, and making sure my ass is clean is a big priority. I can't imagine expecting my wife to put up with lack of hygiene... and I'm always clean for intimacy of course. There's soooo many depressing stories about men who come to bed dirty. It's really disrespectful. I fully agree with what you said about not bothering with men like that, it's such a basic thing you wonder what else they're too lazy to do.

I'm pretty sure it's a few people who presumably do not wash their ass, trying to make it a 'thing people do' when it's not really a thing people do, just them.

Everyone else doesn't want to sit on, or walk around with, a crusty ass all day.

Skid marks after a day at work I can kinda get, especially if all you've got is a porta-potty, right? But wanting to shower that off after work instead of marinate in it is the normal thing to do.

This is purely anecdotal, but... maybe? I've always loved reading advice columns since I was a kid, and I've seen this issue come up. Usually it's embarrassed wives or girlfriends who can't bring themselves to talk to their family/friends about their boyfriend/husband's dirty habits because they're too embarrassed, and they're just sort of... looking for confirmation that not washing your ass is gross? Because the man presents it like it's normal, or just a Man Thing and the wife/girlfriend is overreacting, being judgmental, etc. I've also seen regular posts about this on reddit, again from embarrassed women who feel like they're crazy or mean for being upset that their boyfriend left skidmarks on the sheets.

Now, you can say that people are known and lie, and of course this is true. So many? Over decades, in different forums, about this specific thing? I suspect that there's no smoke without fire, and that some men were raised by wolves, never learned personal hygiene and are trying to normalize it with their grossed-out partners instead of growing up and learning to embrace soap and water. And no, it's not just a blue collar thing.

There is definitely a subset of men who never wash their ass. They think spreading-and-rinsing in the shower = a washed ass. They would never dream of soaping up their hand or a washcloth and cleaning their asshole.

I have some theories about this. Some are likely germophobes who don't want their hand anywhere near their asshole. Some are likely closeted gay men. There's probably some overlap between the two. Some are truly just that damn lazy.

And sure, someone with a blue collar job, who only has access to a portable toilet during the day, I can understand why they'd have skid marks. But if you're out there on the internets acting like that makes you manly, no. Being manly involves cleaning up after your own bodily messes to protect the people you live with and, for godssake, have sexual intercourse with.

TL;DR 9 times out of 10 I assume they're the closeted macho type guy.

For the sake of my sanity, I choose to believe that this is at least 90% ragebait. I am sure that there are SOME people who *actually* don't wash their asses, but I think most of it is just social media nonsense for engagement.

I always scrub my ass and my entire undercarriage every time I shower. I kind of had a problem with skidmarks somewhat when I was a young child, but I got a little older and was embarrassed. I started wiping better and it hasn't been an issue since I was in grade school.

Never dated men but grew up with brothers and I believe that there are guys out there way too lazy or clueless enough to not wash their ass.

I'm sure people wish it was ragebait, but it's a thing. Look at all the stories of adult men who don't know how to do their own laundry, clean their house, shop and cook a basic meal, keep track of their own appointments and social life, demonstrate love and care for another human being. Personal hygiene is an awkward conversation to have with a child, and some parents... just didn't do it. Boys get more of a pass than girls do for being sweaty and stinky, so peer pressure doesn't always do the job. Men go from being taken care of and cleaned up after by their mothers to being taken care of cleaned up after by their girlfriends and wives. You see it all the time in unhappy relationship advice subreddits or advice columns.

And it's not just asses, unfortunately. There's a regular thing on r/TwoXChromosomes where women find out that their recurring UTIs that they've been trying to treat, seeing doctors for, changing diets, taking antibiotics and supplements for... stop immediately once they no longer have sex with their male partner. Because dirty dicks are a thing, too. My ex used to go hiking and then come home and say he's too tired to shower, he'll do it later... after hours of TV watching, gaming, well, now he's too tired to shower and needs to go to bed so he'll just toddle off covered in dried sweat and reeking of BO and ball sweat, the scent of which transfers to the bedsheets. Then in the morning he's surprised when I don't want to suck his dick. Asking him to wash first hurts his feelings, and when his feelings get hurt, it's my fault for being so uptight and unreasonable and that's how women get brainwashed into thinking that dirty men who don't wash properly is normal.

No, not all men... but too damn many!

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