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Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

This is actually something that happened quite awhile back, but it's something I'm still irrationally pissed off about when I think of it, and the memory surfaced again.

So you know how you can do your phone settings so that when it's set to overnight mode, most notifications are muted, but you can pick certain people/apps that will still come through?

I was with my family once and we were talking about it, and I told them that I have my parents and both siblings set to come through, along with my grandmother, uncle, and brother-in-law.

And they were just... weird about it. Dismissive about my grandmother/uncle "They couldn't find your number if they needed it and why would they call you?" and they just acted WEIRD when I said my brother-in-law is on my allowed list too.

He's not on there so I can have a secret chat with him at 2 am when we can't sleep... he's on there so that if something happens to my sister or her phone, he can get ahold of me.

They have been married for over ten years now. I have known this man since I was a single digit age. There has never been anything weird between us? I'm not that kind of person???? And they all know this. But they acted like I had said/was doing something weird.

It was one of those moments that stuck with me and just still pisses me off all over again when I think about it. There was a time when my sister's phone was acting up and outgoing calls were not being sent. What if she had had an emergency, and tried to call off her husband's phone, but everyone had their settings so that his calls wouldn't come through?

And as for my grandmother and uncle. Yeah, sure, I know it's unlikely they'd ever need or want to call me or be able to find my phone number, but why the fuck NOT put them on there?? It doesn't hurt anything. It's not like it causes a problem. If they never ever call me, then that's fine, nothing is lost or damaged. But again, what if something crazy happened, and they had an emergency? They were just kind of contemptuously dismissive of that statement, like "Lol you think these people are going to call YOU?"

Re: Petty vent about family

[tabaqui]

That is FAR from irrational. Why people gotta be such asshats?

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

Your decision seems perfectly rational to me, but your family is being super weird about it. I don't know what their hang-up is, but they 100% have one.

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

???? Having your in-laws on your allowed list is just normal. I have my brother-in-law on mine for the same reason - because if anything happened to my sister and neither one of them could get to her phone, I would want him to be able to call me from his!

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

I bet if something did happen and someone tried to call you but weren't on the allowed list the same people would ask why that relative wasn't on your allowed list. Sorry they were like that about it. You sound like you have your head screwed on right.

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

^This. Sometimes asshats just want to criticize everything. You can't win, because anything you decided would be wrong, somehow, in some way. I like to put a little distance between myself and those idiots, it's a lot more restful for one's peace of mind.

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[(Anonymous)]

Thank you all for your comments, honestly. I feel better after hearing from other people who think that I didn't do anything weird or inappropriate. It honestly hurt my feelings that my own family acted like I was doing something suspicious or strange or otherwise off. Hopefully I can let it go, it's one of those things that just stuck with me because I genuinely don't think I did or said anything that was wrong at all. My mom can be a little.....different......sometimes, so this isn't too off-the-wall for her, but it was both hurtful and kind of angering.