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⌈ Secret Post #6965 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Questions?

[(Anonymous)]

What do you think about professional settings and insults/put-downs as jokes? Specifically am I being too sensitive?

Context: My supervisor has been with us for about 4 months now. Generally speaking, I like working with him, but he does this thing where he makes a comment like, "If the computers won't start up, we'll just blame it on [me/someone else in the conversation]."
And due to his demeanor - he's an affable guy and he follows it with, "Just teasing" - I get that he's joking around. Trying to build a little bit of familiarity.
But IDK if it's a me thing or if this is one of those things where it is presented as non-threatening but is actually a part of a toxic work environment.
I already feel like he and my manager pick favorites. They have their "In" group, and then the rest of the team are like "outsiders".

Re: Questions?

[(Anonymous)]

SA: Feel like I forgot to add, I am trying to be like, "Oh he's just teasing" but ultimately, it makes me uncomfortable. I don't participate in the "jokes", and I don't know if I should just let this go as a personal me thing or if I'm right to clock it as not OK in a professional setting.

Re: Questions?

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't be bothered by that type of joking but I also don't know you work culture. There could be other reasons to think this is more than silly "dad joke" type humor at work.

Do you think you could pinpoint why its bugging you? Like has this person done other things that have made you suspect or uncomfortable? Do you think in a different setting with a different person this type of humor would still not be fir you?

Re: Questions?

[(Anonymous)]

Could be toxic, hard to say. If you were always the subject of the "joke" (in quotes for a reason), I would lean closer to toxic and suggest paying attention. Might want to document his other behaviors and see if there is a pattern. If that's the only thing he does that's "weird" it might be harmless.

And if you can confirm the higher ups have their favorites, and everyone else is getting screwed over (for example, you can never get promoted or get pay raises no matter how much you advocate for yourself), might be time to look for another job. Which I realize is easier said than done in this job market.

Re: Questions?

[(Anonymous)]

Personally, that would bother me a lot.