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I don't want to hurt someone irl so I'm posting a little vent here

Do what you gotta.

Instead of trying to delicately do this, I am lying and saying that I have a bad headache and am going to bed early.

I'm so tired. Mainly emotionally tired, but also a bit physically. I've never shoveled snow in my life until this week, the ice/snow has been so stressful to deal with getting to work and back. Along with, well, the general state of the world, worrying about my family, and just life stresses in general. This week has felt like a month. This person won't stop texting me about trivial stuff and I cannot sit here and relax because I have to keep answering. Literally I want to sit here with my jaw hung open and my eyes half closed while I watch the pretty colors on the computer screen. I don't want to have to think. Nothing is *wrong*, I am just tired.

But instead of saying that and explaining it all and trying to provide reassurance and then possibly still being messaged, I'm just going to lie. :( I feel guilty about it, but I am just not up to that today, and I have to have a few hours of peace, because each time my phone goes off, I get just a little more worn down.

I've been there. I used to have a friend that sounds similar, where if I said I just needed some time that would start a bunch of "supportive" questions and then possibly texts about if I was mad at them. So it was easier just to lie and put my phone on silent.

Your way to go about its as delicate as it gets IMO anon
Just say you have the headache so you don't have to overexplain or just say you're feeling unwell, it's not a lie exhaustion is lack of wellness. Gl with your recovery

Lie and get your rest, anon. That headache can last a day or two. Then you can develop a sprained back from the snow-shovelling. They can find someone else to pester, or deal with whatever themself. You are not an emotional support animal and even a trained Lab might have problems with their neediness.

Turn. Your phone. OFF.

Kids, those of us older than the cell phone remember a time when no one could reach us because there was no way to do so, but there is no rule or law that you have to be on-call 24/7 just because you own a cell phone. Normalize taking control of your life, turning off your phone when you want to, and not responding to texts no matter how needy and inconsiderate of boundaries the other end is. Because not being in contact 24/7 IS normal, being tethered to another person is not natural.

if you have to, make up an excuse. "oh, my new year's resolution is to have less screen time." "I need to prioritize my health and that means resting when my body says so." "I want to change some habits for mental and physical health so just be warned I might not always answer a text right away." whatever you have to do. and then, for real, do it - stay off your phone, off discord, off whatever social media is sucking your life away.

This comment reminds me of a conversation I read earlier. Someone was complaining about grocery delivery services going away and they were all "but how will I get my groceries??? This is ridiculous!" and people were just replying asking how old they were and what they did before 2020 for food. Ye olden days!

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

(Anonymous) - 2026-02-01 02:12 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

(Anonymous) - 2026-02-01 08:53 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

(Anonymous) - 2026-02-01 12:19 (UTC) - Expand

I've muted at this point almost everyone excluding some people I don't interact a lot.

My brain screams to answer if I see a message, I get annoyed and frustrated. Not looking at my phone at all is life saving

I know I feel guilty when I lie, even if it's to avoid hurting someone by telling the full truth (or if they are apt to only give weight to certain reasons). So, I generally go with something that is a part of the truth and let them make up whatever reason in their head makes the most sense to them. Like, 'I'm really sorry, but I'm going to have my phone off for a couple of hours, so I won't know if you're texting me, I'll catch up with you tomorrow,' and turn off my phone or 'I have something I have to take care of, so I'm going to be unavailable for a bit,' and turn off notifications for them and take care of that something (that something being me).

That seems healthy. Vent away!

I am complaining because I am trying to be healthy so I didn't buy snacks at the grocery but now I am angry because I really want snacks.

The trick is to buy some nuts or yogurt and enjoy them!

I personally like sugar free chocolate pudding with walnuts on top.

My local Indian takeaway has been taken over by a new owner, and it is now a generic Turkish kebab shop which does a couple of superbasic curries.

There is nowhere within a 20mile radius that does a decent butter chicken now.

Oh that sucks!

ooh, I'm sorry to hear that.

Ohhh that really sucks! I'm sorry!

Wait. They only a new owner and are selling a completely different type of cuisine under the same name?? Talk about bad for business.
That absolutely sucks though, hopefully a new place will pop up or they'll rethink their strategy and get a better recipe.

Ugh, I feel really physically shitty to the point where I'd at least like the option of going to urgent care or something, but most healthcare workers for the HMO I use are striking. Plus I would probably talk myself out of going even if they weren't on strike, because I hate going to the doctor.

Unless your healthcare workers have called for a boycott, you should still go in while they're on strike. It's part of the strategy, especially for healthcare.

Re: Complaing or venting or whatever

(Anonymous) - 2026-02-01 02:04 (UTC) - Expand

Never hate going to the doctor! The fear of what might happen, especially when you know when something is wrong, won't ever outweigh the help they can give you. Let alone the peace of mind knowing what's going on over panicking about the maybe's when dealing with it alone.

When I didn't do what they were all accusing me of. I know it shouldn't bug me, but it does. What bugs me more is that I only went in to help them and then they accuse me server wide "so the server knows what you did" of trying to steal. Makes me not want to actually interact or help anyone in game, which is a shame because this community has been really kind until this incident.

Ugh, that's disgusting. Valid to be annoyed, anon :( I don't know what kind of game you play but regardless it's a valid frustration IMO. Do you have a side account or something like that to play while things are sorted out?

Re: Just got publicly shamed on a server in game

(Anonymous) - 2026-02-01 01:42 (UTC) - Expand

It's so cold outside that my home's mediocre insulation is falling short and the floors and walls radiate cold.

I just found out my heating ducts have big holes in them and now I'm really noticing. I feel you.

Layers and sweaters and wooly socks!

This year I'm weirdly more nostalgic for Christmas than other years. Christmas was a lot of fun this year. I guess I blazed through it despite enjoying it. Didn't really watch too much Christmas stuff, didn't listen to Christmas music much. Also...it's just been hard to exist, and Christmas since the 20th century in western media, we have a focus on doing good for others, especially the most needy (thanks Charles Dickens). Guess I'm reminding myself this is to be applied all year round, not just in December.

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