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⌈ Secret Post #6966 ⌋

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Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

Instead of trying to delicately do this, I am lying and saying that I have a bad headache and am going to bed early.

I'm so tired. Mainly emotionally tired, but also a bit physically. I've never shoveled snow in my life until this week, the ice/snow has been so stressful to deal with getting to work and back. Along with, well, the general state of the world, worrying about my family, and just life stresses in general. This week has felt like a month. This person won't stop texting me about trivial stuff and I cannot sit here and relax because I have to keep answering. Literally I want to sit here with my jaw hung open and my eyes half closed while I watch the pretty colors on the computer screen. I don't want to have to think. Nothing is *wrong*, I am just tired.

But instead of saying that and explaining it all and trying to provide reassurance and then possibly still being messaged, I'm just going to lie. :( I feel guilty about it, but I am just not up to that today, and I have to have a few hours of peace, because each time my phone goes off, I get just a little more worn down.

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

I've been there. I used to have a friend that sounds similar, where if I said I just needed some time that would start a bunch of "supportive" questions and then possibly texts about if I was mad at them. So it was easier just to lie and put my phone on silent.

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

Your way to go about its as delicate as it gets IMO anon
Just say you have the headache so you don't have to overexplain or just say you're feeling unwell, it's not a lie exhaustion is lack of wellness. Gl with your recovery

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

Lie and get your rest, anon. That headache can last a day or two. Then you can develop a sprained back from the snow-shovelling. They can find someone else to pester, or deal with whatever themself. You are not an emotional support animal and even a trained Lab might have problems with their neediness.

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

Turn. Your phone. OFF.

Kids, those of us older than the cell phone remember a time when no one could reach us because there was no way to do so, but there is no rule or law that you have to be on-call 24/7 just because you own a cell phone. Normalize taking control of your life, turning off your phone when you want to, and not responding to texts no matter how needy and inconsiderate of boundaries the other end is. Because not being in contact 24/7 IS normal, being tethered to another person is not natural.

if you have to, make up an excuse. "oh, my new year's resolution is to have less screen time." "I need to prioritize my health and that means resting when my body says so." "I want to change some habits for mental and physical health so just be warned I might not always answer a text right away." whatever you have to do. and then, for real, do it - stay off your phone, off discord, off whatever social media is sucking your life away.

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

This comment reminds me of a conversation I read earlier. Someone was complaining about grocery delivery services going away and they were all "but how will I get my groceries??? This is ridiculous!" and people were just replying asking how old they were and what they did before 2020 for food. Ye olden days!

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

We walked there in the snow, uphill both ways!

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

Nope, entirely wrong comment here. People have made themselves entirely too dependant on convenient solutions to the point where not having those conveniences for just a tiny amount of time makes their life much more complicated. Making yourself rely on tech or services that can fail you and then being incapable to just do them yourself (like going to the damn store) is an issue. It is not a "we had it so much worse back then, stop complaining", it's "learn to deal with how to do this mundane task in case of an emergency".
And we're not talking about disabled people who can't actually do these things.

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

...sigh.

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

I've muted at this point almost everyone excluding some people I don't interact a lot.

My brain screams to answer if I see a message, I get annoyed and frustrated. Not looking at my phone at all is life saving

Re: Telling someone I love deeply but who is sensitive that I need some quiet time

[(Anonymous)]

I know I feel guilty when I lie, even if it's to avoid hurting someone by telling the full truth (or if they are apt to only give weight to certain reasons). So, I generally go with something that is a part of the truth and let them make up whatever reason in their head makes the most sense to them. Like, 'I'm really sorry, but I'm going to have my phone off for a couple of hours, so I won't know if you're texting me, I'll catch up with you tomorrow,' and turn off my phone or 'I have something I have to take care of, so I'm going to be unavailable for a bit,' and turn off notifications for them and take care of that something (that something being me).