[ SECRET POST #6995 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6995 ⌋

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[Sohla El-Waylly]



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[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I feel bad for her and can really relate, although not with a job. I tend to be a people-pleaser, and I put up with waaaaay more garbage from friends than I should, until it crosses the threshold where I just can't take it anymore. Then, I ghost/cut them off. And honestly, this makes me look like a huge asshole for cutting someone off abruptly, but the truth is that there was oftentimes years of resentment growing, as I didn't set boundaries and had been discontent and growing frustrated with things and didn't properly communicate to them that there was a problem. That's mostly on me, although sadly the type of person who likes to take advantage of others can sniff out people like me from a mile away, so I'd argue that them being hyper-clingy and demanding and using me also contributes to the situation. But as far as they know everything is fine until one day I am just straight up done, then I look like a stone-cold monster for cutting them off.

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I can relate a lot to what you said. I'm a people pleaser, working on it. And it affects my personal life more than my professional, but overall, I feel like I have to work hard on knowing when to say no or establish boundaries in many aspects of my life.
Something that fucked with my sense of self advocacy/establishing boundaries was when I tried to do that with a friend, it blew up in my face. That friend did exactly what I feared would happen. They got mad at me, flipped things around where I had to apologize and really I'm the bad guy, and when I didn't want to talk about it anymore because the confrontation turned into a thing where I'm the one who can do no right and I should feel bad, not my friend, my friend insisted we had to keep talking about it because now their feelings are hurt they need to make it clear that I'm no saint and all the negativity was on me to manage, not them, and it came with a "sorry you feel that way but not my problem or responsibility, how dare you" lecture.
I felt like I was being punished for daring to ask to have my feelings acknowledged. Like, who cares that my feelings were hurt? I did something that made me deserve it anyway, so how dare I tell my friend when she was dismissive with me it hurt my feelings.
Thankfully, there were people who I thought would laugh in my face or get angry with me when I'd confronted them, and they apologized and asked/talked to me how they can do better or worked with me on establishing boundaries that worked for all parties involved.
Those situations reminded me that not everyone will turn my issues into something that I should be ashamed of sharing with others, that there are people out there who do care about my feelings enough to hear me out.