[ SECRET POST #7028 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7028 ⌋

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Comments

Re: If you've ever had and left a shitty relationship, did you ever get over it and want to try agai

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not out of one yet, but I know the feeling. I was never that much of a romantic, but I did want that married to your best friend situation. I thought I had it, but I was wrong. Some men like to try very hard and put their best foot forward, and then after you commit, they think it's time to relax and stop trying so hard. I cut him way too much slack because I loved him and I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, I wanted to be a patient, supportive partner and give him time to figure his stuff out. He did not use that time for anything productive, and just got whiny and defensive when I decided I was done waiting for him to grow up.

So after this? No more. I'm not interested in dating anyone, not even casually, not even for sex. I don't want to rule it out completely but tbh, I don't think it's worth my time and effort to dig through the landfill for a good man. I don't have the energy to screen and vet all the sexual predators, incels/redpillers, secret MAGAheads, repugnant manosphere dudebros, tradwife hunters, manchildren who don't know how to take care of themselves and need a woman to do their cooking/cleaning and sexytimes, and THEN try to find someone whose interests and life goals match well with mine. It's too much, and I'm tired. I will enjoy being alone and free and to have my space (no matter how humble or small) that is MINE and not to be violated or dirtied by some idiot who doesn't respect that.

Re: If you've ever had and left a shitty relationship, did you ever get over it and want to try agai

[(Anonymous)]

I could have written this comment, right down to the fact that I'm still in a relationship and am unhappy, just haven't left it yet. I feel the EXACT SAME WAY that I'm not, like, 100% opposed to the idea, but I'm just TIRED and don't have the energy or inclination to try to find someone I'm compatible with, and I feel like I never will.

Re: If you've ever had and left a shitty relationship, did you ever get over it and want to try agai

[(Anonymous)]

I don't rule it out completely because I lurk on r/TwoXChromosomes and a surprising number of women report the same thing - that once they break up or get divorced, the exhaustion and depression they thought they had experienced a drastic decrease. They underestimated just how physically and mentally draining it was to navigate a bad relationship with a bad partner, and how awful it was making them feel every day, sort of a frog in boiling water situation. Once the bad partner was gone, so was a lot of their problems. In addition to that, the number of divorced women who marvel at how much easier it was to clean their house and keep it clean after their husbands left is both enlightening and depressing.

But for myself, once I'm free, I'm not eager to dive back in. I know that my partner looked like one of the Good Ones initially, he acted the part, he was on his best behavior. When he began his downhill slide, I worked my ass off trying to prop him up and give him grace while he struggled to do basic, everyday things that he expected me to do for him. I spent years putting in the effort, while he just enjoyed his free ride. I won't do that again for anyone.