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I can't stop thinking about how I should've gone out with that guy thirty-five years ago. I made a mistake. I know part of this thinking is romanticising of the past but I can't stop it, even though I know he has a girlfriend (probably for a long time). I keep ruminating on it.

All the fucking time, for a number of reasons.

But specifically, like you, I had a guy that I let go; I'm probably avoidant-attachment or sthg. I should have made more of an effort to keep that relationship going all those years ago.

Older and wiser is a cliche for a reason. Hugs, anon.

Ouch, that can be really hard.

I don’t know if the thoughts weigh on you the way they weigh on me, but I used to do a lot of that, at least a few times a week, and realized it was making me so miserable that I made a real effort to stop. I sort of told myself that I just wasn’t allowed to dwell on that. Whatever happened, happened, and thinking about the “what ifs” was harming me here and now. I tried to either distract myself entirely or focus on something I could do better right now (with the idea that I was really ruminating on the past because I was unhappy with the present).

I still find those thoughts popping up, but much less now that I’ve been working on it for a little over a year.

Hopefully it’s not affecting you that much, but in any case, I hope you find a way of resolving it for yourself, I know it can be persistent and difficult.

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It appears he was the only guy that ever really liked me. And I sort of threw him away. He's not even conventionally handsome. You would think he would be good-looking to hold my attention like this!

What's he doing now? Maybe he's single.

All the time. Should have kept friends i didn't, books, letters, things. Should have asked my grandmothers and parents more questions about their lives and history, should have taken more time for my sis and brothers when we were all young and stupid....

Every single day of my life. I regret so many of the choices I have made. There is one in particular that I would give anything to undo.

Of course, if I hadn't made that particular mistake, chances are I would have made a different one, and who knows? Maybe it would have been even worse.

The longer I live, the more I realize changing things in the past doesn't necessarily prevent other problems from coming up in the present.

I let a lot of things go more and more these days, and wish only to salvage what's left of my time. I'm not saying that's the right or wrong way of doing things, but I'm so goddamn tired of wishing things were different based on the road I didn't take.

I often dream about going back in time and investing in Apple.

All the fucking time. But my bully got caught stealing and spent three months in jail and that's cathartic enough for me.

A lot. Honestly, though, the biggest thing I'd love to be able to do is go back and comfort my younger self, tell myself that I'm okay, I'll be okay, things get better, I'm not evil, God doesn't hate me, the people at school were just terrible people, and that we will grow up and have a good life.

Lots of times. I should have left my abusive ex much earlier, I shouldn't have gone to the college I went to, I shouldn't have moved to the place I lived in the early 80s, etc etc

Very often.

All the time. I still have weekly - sometimes nightly - nightmares about my biggest regret. That one thing that changed everything forever.

It's been 30 years, and it's not even that bad, but I don't know if I'll ever stop reliving it as my single greatest failure in life. I don't even know how I could or would change it. Every nightmare is an attempt to change/solve/fix it, and every nightmare drives home how there was literally no workable solution.

I'll be the lone one out and say I don't remember the last time I did that. I'm pretty ok with my choices and where they've led me.

I'm the same.

My mom was the "sigh...regrets" type of person and it got on my nerves so much I decided not to be like that. She spent a lot of time thinking about stuff that can't be changed.

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