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I lost my job about 6 weeks ago, and when that happened, my significant other took it upon himself to inform all of our mutual friends. He also told them that I had an interview for my dream job.

I know he meant well by it, but I honestly don't appreciate him broadcasting this far and wide. I did not get the dream job, sadly. I knew it wasn't likely, and I told him that, but he still shared it with people. Now I have people texting me and asking if I got the new job, and I have to tell them that I didn't.

I am going to talk to him about it, but he can be a little sensitive about stuff like this. Again I know he was trying to help me and rally support/people who care about me, and I do appreciate that, but I'm also pretty private about stuff and would have preferred to have shared it on my own terms.

Be honest with him. You say he's sensitive about this stuff, but he didn't seem to consider your feelings at all. He's not the only one who is allowed to have things they are sensitive about. He hurt your feelings, and you are allowed to feel that and allowed to tell him that.

I don't have patience with people like your partner. If he's "a little sensitive about stuff like this" then maybe he ought to be more considerate of other people first. People who are thoughtless blabbermouths don't get to boohoo about THEIR sacred feelings when they've screwed up and hurt someone else.

If* you think he's able to empathize with you on this, I'd emphasize how much his news-spreading exposed you to disappointment and embarrassment about not having better news to share, and now every person who asks you how the interview went (meaning well, of course) is re-opening the wound for you. That's a shitty thing to do to them AND you, because they don't want to hurt you like that.

* That's a big "if", because he hasn't exactly shown himself to be great about considering your needs and feelings so far.

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