[ SECRET POST #7051 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7051 ⌋

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[fscom]

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Transcript by OP

[fscom]

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Re: Transcript by OP

[fscom]

When I was a child (and American Girl wasn't even owned by Mattel yet back then), my parents decided me and my sister could both have an American Girl doll each. Those dolls were expensive even then, it still boggles my mind that some kids have like twenty.

I was a true doll girly. My sister was in it for the status symbol. She chose a modern day doll, and I wanted Samantha. She had the best accessories and she looked like me (in all honesty I was a dead ringer for Molly but didn't want to admit it.) My sister had a classmate/rival with a modern doll and an Addy. My sister bullied me into asking for Addy. For the rest of our childhoods, anytime I told her how mean that was because she knew I wanted Samantha, she'd call me a racist.

I bought a Samantha when I was a grown-up, but it's not the same. And I'm considering ratting my sister's behavior out to her kids as soon as they're old enough to understand how shitty that was.

TL:DR I'm still holding a childhood grudge against my sister for calling me racist for wanting a Samantha doll.

Re: Transcript by OP

[(Anonymous)]

Ayup, that is certainly a grudge.

Doesn't make sense to out her at this point though, unless you can see a pattern of her similarly being a jerk to her kids over their preferences.

[philstar22]

Sisters can be terrible. I'm sorry yours was so cruel.

[(Anonymous)]

Damn, what the hell was wrong with your sister to bully you like that? Is she gonna do that to her kids too? I'm glad you were able to get yourself a Samantha doll eventually, but your sister sucks.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not sure what good telling that story to her kids will do, but I do agree that was a shitty thing for her to do to you. Have you ever spoken to her about it as an adult; or does her other behavior indicate that the result would probably be the same?

(If the latter, I would also hold this grudge, to be clear. Why should I forgive something when the other person has demonstrated neither remorse or positive growth? I don't let people off the hook that easily for cruelty—and cruelty was what that was.)

[pengilly]

Fellow Samantha fan (her books were my favorite) ヾ(・ω・)メ(・ω・)ノ

Jeez, the fact that your sister did that while (presumably) having asked for a doll that looked like her too*, but somehow thinking it was racist for you wanting the same...

The bit about her rival having the Abby doll makes it even worse. Like, I think it's abundantly clear that her pressuring you into getting an Abby doll had nothing to do with a desire to advance racial equality...

*I assume that by "modern doll", that's like the dolls that are customized to look like you. It's been a long time since I looked at the American Girl catalogs. I loved the American Girl dolls, but settled for a knockoff Madame Alexander doll, lol.

[pengilly]

But I wouldn't tell her kids, as tempting as it may be. I think the better thing, if you think she would be conducive to it, may be to tell her directly how hurtful the bullying was and seek an apology.

Then again, I have a good relationship with my sister, and only you know how well she'd handle something like that. But trying to get back at her would almost certainly invite retaliation and further souring of the relationship. And it's not like it would protect her kids from anything either.

[(Anonymous)]

I had a friend with FOUR of them as a child, and the modern one was customized to look like her. She also had Samantha, Josefina, and Kit.

tbf Addy is the best

[(Anonymous)]

If this is the worst thing your sister's ever done (which is petty to the point where it makes you look weird to still be holding a grudge over it) I don't know what you'll think you'll accomplish by telling her kids.

Re: tbf Addy is the best

[pengilly]

I mean, it's fair if you like Addy the best, but her sister definitely wasn't trying to do her a favor. Especially given her sister clearly had a negative association with the doll (belonged to her rival).

While I don't have a sibling experience like this, I've met Internet users who wield faux-social justice like a sledgehammer, and they tend to do so to cover up their own awfulness in other areas.

I'm guessing this is the straw that broke the camels back.

Edit: But yeah, OP, please don't tell the kids.

[(Anonymous)]

I understand the desire to tell her kids but what is that going to achieve? If she has a good relationship with her kids-- and they are HER kids-- all this is going to do is alienate you from your niblings, and make you look petty for holding onto a grudge from your childhood. Yes, it was cruel of her and it affected you deeply, but is that really how you can expect her kids to see it?

Now, if her kids come to you to complain about her being petty and hurtful about things they care about, then I think it's reasonable to say hey, I get it, when we were kids she did this-- IF you can keep your tone somewhat neutral about it. If you can make it a moment of understanding with them, if you can talk about it without getting too worked up, demonizing her to her kids, you can certainly be honest with them about why your relationship with your sister is what it is, why you will believe them when they have complaints about her behavior. But if you're telling the story to score points on her, I think it's a lot more likely you're just going to blow up the relationship you have with those kids.

[(Anonymous)]

My sister had the Samantha doll! I always thought it was really cool. I was 4 years younger than her and wasn't given one because I was considered too wild and irresponsible to take care of such an expensive doll.

[pengilly]

Oof. Were you at least allowed a cheaper doll? (I had a Madame Alexander 18' doll, about a quarter of the price of an American Girl doll)