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⌈ Secret Post #7051 ⌋

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[scene from The Naked Gun: From the Files of Police Squad! (1988)]



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Comments

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

This is probably problematic, but I am SICK of people using "poor executive functioning skills" as an excuse for what is clearly learned helplessness.

Life is about understanding and addressing your issues, not hiding behind labels and accommodations as a security blanket.

Is it hard? YES! LIFE IS HARD.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

We're probably talking different levels of hard here.

Unlearning learned helplessness through depression and systemic oppression isn't the same level of hard as working through that when life is somewhat okay and you can afford meds etc.

Sometimes just surviving is enough before you can work on it. Because Lord knows how executive dysfunction can and actually does impair survivality. Used to think like you until stuff happened. We don't care about health when we're 17 running to catch a crowded train, partying all night, eating whatever and still thriving. We don't get that level of tough, leaning on walls not to fall but no insurance level of tough. It snowballs quick.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Learned helplessness is a trauma response, so your reaction is still overly hostile. Save it for weaponized incompetence.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I think you and OP both have a point here. As someone who has issues like this due to disability, sometimes I really do need to challenge myself and push through discomfort, for my sake and for the sake of others in my life. Other times, I'm at my limit, and will just get burned out if I try to ignore it, I've gotten some painful reality checks that way.

For me, it takes patience and a willingness to experiment with my limits to manage this stuff.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

This is... nuanced.

Executive dysfunction is disabling, and it's extremely hard to explain to people who do not struggle with it. Sometimes I have so much to do, I can't start. It is very hard to just push myself. I know it doesn't make sense. It doesn't.

I do think people use it as an excuse. But I also think it can look like excuses to people who don't get it. Make sense?