[ SECRET POST #1396 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1396 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 12 pages, 294 secrets from Secret Submission Post #200.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 1 2 3 - repeat ], [ 1 - personal attack ], [ 1 - what fandom? ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

121. http://img267.imageshack.us/img267/865/86645485.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know what to say. There's no denying that would hurt a whole hell of a lot, but... maybe I'm a terrible person, but I can't help but wonder WHY they told you to stay out of their fandom. You had some really stressful things happen in your life, but I seriously doubt anyone would be all like "Oh her parents had divorces/deaths in her family. Let's exclude her."

Be honest with yourself. Is there another reason why they wouldn't want you around?

All in all, though, that's beside the point. You now have three options: 1) Whine and cry and take your toys and shuffle off home, feeling hurt. 2) Join the fandom anyway under a different name. They'll never know unless you repeat the behavior that probably got you slighted in the first place. 3) Screw them. Jump in and live your life as you want it. Join the fandom and haters to the left and whatnot.

Think of this as a life lesson. You've been dealt a hard blow. The important thing is how you're going to act on it. Self pity or finding a way to move on. Choose wisely.

[(Anonymous)]

I am being honest with myself, and I don't know why. They won't tell me. And the reason I put in the stuff (divorce etc) is to show a bit better my feelings. That's the secret, that out of all of life's struggles and strife, a friend telling me they didn't want me in fandom hurt most of all. Kinda pathetic, but I thought others mind connect with it too.

[(Anonymous)]

At the end of the day does it even matter? Whatever reason they come up with probably isn't a good one.

Again, what matters is what you plan on doing about it.

[thene]

Just a thought, but I wonder if there's something about their activities in this fandom that they don't want you to know because they know you IRL. Like a kink they have or some other thing they see as a major confession.

Either way, I like anon's options 2 and 3 because your best friend does not own the goddamn internet and possibly needs to realise that.

[atelierlune.livejournal.com]

Sane, thoughtful comment is sane and thoughtful.

[inkedfeathers.livejournal.com]

Agreed.

[viserys.livejournal.com]

Fuck them. Join whatever fandom you want -- it's the internet, it's not like they can keep you out. I know it sucks to lose close friends, especially over fandom stuff -- I've been in the same situation myself -- but seriously, fuck them. You can always make new friends, possibly fandom friends, that are less shitty and douchebag-y than whatever friend told you that.

[(Anonymous)]

Their fandom? Fuck that.

[crevanfox.livejournal.com]

Unless your friends make up the whole of a particular fandom, and are going to, as a group, ignore you, then they can't actually kick you out. So who cares what they think?

Find others to hang out with.

That being said, you said they had cause to want you gone, maybe that's something you need to work on (without knowing more, it's hard to say).

sup OP

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly? I loved having you in the fandom. It made the experience so much better and so much more fulfilling, and for so long all I wanted was for you to give it a chance and see how wonderful it is.

But you have to understand that nearly from the beginning you were bitter and hurtful every time it came up, getting on my case about it. Even after getting involved in the fandom, you haven't stopped making backhanded comments about the things that I do and the way the fandom behaves. And you know, that fandom was the only support that I had while you were being shady and my life went to hell, and during that time I figured out some things about our relationship that I am just not ready to let go or talk to you about. I do love fangirling with you - you've been my favorite person all of my life, you know? And I'm so, so glad that the fandom's helped you learn things about yourself and about creativity, I really am. That's wonderful.

I lashed out, okay? You had just given me the worst week of my life and every time you said that you were like you-know-who or that our relationship was like you-know-whose, I just wanted to scream, because I in no way wanted to connect the fandom to what was happening. Fandom is supposed to be an escape, not entrenched in all the horrible shit that's been happening the past two years. And you were connecting those at a time when I just Could Not Deal.

I had no right to say that to you, and I'm sorry. Do whatever you want. I still don't think I'm ready to talk to you, though, but I'm sure we'll talk more about that later and this is already too personal and tl;dr.

Re: sup OP

[(Anonymous)]

...Um, not to intrude too much, but it sounds to me like you both are sort of... poisonous for one another, right now. Maybe you should both take a break from one another and get your lives sorted out.

Just a thought D: Having that many issues over something like an escape isn't healthy, and having a friendship like that for either of you is bad too.

Just, take care of yourselves, okay...?

Re: sup OP

[(Anonymous)]

Just fuck each other already.

Re: sup OP

[(Anonymous)]

Ha! Great minds think alike. I don't even know their names, and I ship it. <3

[chambergambit.livejournal.com]

Join under a different name. Become a BNF just to spite them.

[(Anonymous)]

I've asked some of my RL friends not to join the fandom I'm in before. Why? Because I'm an irrational human being who doesn't want them to morph into just a fandom friend, and I don't want them to be taken from me. I don't know about your friend, but I selfishly love most of my friends, and fandom is a greedy beast.

[(Anonymous)]

This.

I don't like it when I have IRL friends in the same fandom. If they become more popular than me in the fandom, I get bitter and jealous. I don't want them to be taken from me either. I've pretty much already had a friend abandon me due to the RP she's in and it really hurts.

Perhaps we are selfish, but fandom is indeed a "greedy beast."

[masked-creator.livejournal.com]

Join the fandom anyway, just find someone else to enjoy it with. It's not "their" fandom, and they can't tell you what to do.

[(Anonymous)]

If you're both already in the fandom and they don't want to be in the same fandom with you it's their choice to leave. If you find any support and joy in the fandom stick with it. If your "friend" doesn't like it let them leave.

[xerxes92.livejournal.com]

anon, I feel like you're me in every aspect except for you having a friend who doesn't want you in fandom. I'm sorry, i hope things get better for you.

*Hugs*

[countess-k.livejournal.com]

Find another fandom OP. This happened to me (not exactly the same but a couple of jerk BNFs made it difficult for me in my last fandom.) I just shrugged and moved on to the next fandom and found newer, awesomer friends.

[(Anonymous)]

Has it occurred to you that your obsession, or better put, addiction to fandom and fixation on your friend is what makes them uneasy having you in it? You sound really fucking creepy, sorry.