[ SECRET POST #1535 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1535 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 058 secrets from Secret Submission Post #219.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

02. http://i51.tinypic.com/2nlsfvk.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

That is heartbreaking. It's cool that you got into that fandom, though. At least you got something of your own out of the experience.

[odontv.livejournal.com]

WOW. This sounds like something I would probably do just to see if it would work. LOL. That sucks though--but at least you have a new fandom?

[damnated.livejournal.com]

Sometimes people move on. Not saying that what you did is creepy or not (I don't think it is, personally, but I never got the whole 'creepy'-on-the-internet concept either) but it would have been a lot easier to just send her an e-mail and explain the situation. :)

[(Anonymous)]

Something like this happened to me, once. I had a friend from a certain fandom, we drifted apart, and when she contacted me after a year or so, I was excited and brushed up on the old fandom so we'd have something to talk about. Unfortunately, she was no longer into the fandom at all, and I was head over heels for it again. In fact, I'm pretty sure my renewed avid obsession with the fandom made us split up again. :\

[klashfor.livejournal.com]

I've been on the other side of this.

Kind of wonder if this is about me, but I don't think Ripley would gp on f!s

[(Anonymous)]

Wow....I'm really not sure what to say about that.
I sympathize, though....I've had some odd experiences as well with people in fandom, that I feel I cared about way more than I should.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sure you don't need to be told this at this point OP, but people change. Trying to hold on can be uncomfortable at best or painful at worst, and it probably won't work anyway. Let your friend go, maybe later you'll drift back into each other's lives naturally.

Whatever you do, I would not email her out of the blue with this. If I got that email I'd feel so guilty about not noticing you in the old fandom and it would put a lot of baggage on our interactions.

[mutantjules.livejournal.com]

man, that sucks. You could try just emailing her or something

[judo-creature.livejournal.com]

... that's either the most amazing friendship story I've ever heard, or the most batshit friendship story I've ever heard. I can't decide.

Either way, sorry your plan didn't work. If it helps, I think anyone who ignores someone else for a reason as stupid as getting out of fandom is probably a huge dick. I have fandom friends who used to be my best, best friends [like, spending hundreds of dollars to visit, considering getting matching tattoos, platonically in love-type best friends] who kind of just up and jumped the train for whatever reason, and even though we don't talk that much anymore because they've moved on, I've never ignored them when they did come back to chat, even if I wish they hadn't left. Sometimes people have legitimate reasons for leaving fandom, and even if they don't, that's still not an excuse for treating someone who used to be a close friend badly.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow. I can't say that I have NO sympathy for you, OP, but I think this is seriously creepytown. Am I really the only one?

It's one think to try and rekindle an old friendship over a new fandom, but doing that while pretending to be a new friend? Hell no. D: Maybe it's because I know someone this happened to. They had a falling out with a friend, and then weeks later that friend came back pretending to be a new person ... and it was extremely noticeable who it was, and it skeeved us all right the hell out.

But at least you're enjoying your new fandom?

[(Anonymous)]

Have you considered that maybe they recognized you, even with your false identity?
You'd be surprised how easy it is to recognize someone's writing style, no matter how "changed".

That said, it's admirable you've gone so far to be able to reach out to them again, but sometimes you're doing more harm than good. I don't get angry or hold grudges easily, at all, so when I'm over someone? I'm over them.

[rocks-not-dead.livejournal.com]

Damnit. Now I wish you were who I wish you were... if that even makes sense. But I doubt it.

[(Anonymous)]

Furries do this to each other all the time.

...or so I've been told. >.>

[oflittlebrain.livejournal.com]

YOU ARE HELLA CREEPY oh man.

[ssjumi.livejournal.com]

Part of me has full empathy for you, since I would've most likely done sth pretty similar, if I have had the opportunity at the right time.

The other part of me agrees to the "omg!stalker!!" thingie, though.

But hey, you found a new fandom you like, so yay, who knows where that might lead in the future leads ;)

[azure15.livejournal.com]

Try emailing her, OP. You'll be surprised at what could come of it. I've reconnected with friends I've not been able to speak to for years through email, and it's worked out for me. And if it doesn't, well, you'll be able to move on.

Good luck!

[maskitheclown.livejournal.com]

That is creepy. But then, sometimes I miss one of my old friends so much I invent all kinds of scenarios where we get back together and if I had the guts I'd try them out, so I can't fault you too much.

[pocketseizure.livejournal.com]

Dude (or dudette), your friend probably knew it was you. Just sayin.

[kanjo-girl.livejournal.com]

This breaks my heart...

[la-petite-singe.livejournal.com]

...My instinctive response of "UGH THIS IS WHY I HATE WHEN PEOPLE BAIL ON FANDOMS BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT EVERYONE WILL LEAVE ME ONE DAY OH GOD ISSUES ;_____;" is...well, certainly no less creepy, so cheers to us.

[val-tyr.livejournal.com]

The number of well-wishers for this secret is twice as terrifying as the secret itself. Yeek!

[elysian-stars.livejournal.com]

I get why some people are calling this creepy, but...if it were me, I'd be really flattered that someone thought it was worth so much trouble, trying to win my friendship back. Hopefully you'll make some new friends in your new fandom, instead.

[tamabonotchi.livejournal.com]

What a story.

[(Anonymous)]

While I was reading this I thought of a certain friend I had with someone in my old fandom except our story went differently. I was on the other side, feeling like she abandoned me. It was bad enough that I was trying desperately to still like the fandom we shared, only to find later on that she was still updating her journal but filtering me through every single one (and till this day, year after I completely abandoned my old account she's still filtering me from her new posts. Actually, I don't even see some of the other entries that originally were viewable by me - wth? whatever-) I don't even know what prompted this sudden disconnection. I don't recall any arguments or conflicts. So I confess that while reading this secret I was half-hoping you were that friend trying to find me in the new fandom that's giving me joy, but sorry our stories don't match. :( I'm still happily in my new fandom under a new name and she's still posting her fanfiction daily and posting in her personal journal (which filters me out of it.)

I cannot think of emailing her after all this time. The idea just seems so awkward so kudos to you for trying it. I don't think I could have handled rejection from someone I held such high opinion to.

In the end I decided not to let her actions bother me too much. As others have already stated, people change. Also, sometimes a friendship was meant to happen and meant to end. Maybe you were meant to learn something with this friend, and after you learned this life lesson then you are meant to move on. I am glad that the last time this fandom friend and I spoke we were both on good terms with each other and both loved each other as sisters. I would rather the memory of that friendship not be stained by fights or drama. I learned a lot from her, and I celebrate that and don't think too much on the awkwardness of how she walled me out of her life. I understand how you feel, and it sucks how things turned out for you, but maybe this friendship was best to end where it did, on a positive note. We may pine for those happy days, but things change and maybe this isn't meant to be. I hope you enjoy your new fandom. :)