[ SECRET POST #1583 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1583 ⌋


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Notes:

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Not the OP but someone who really, really relates to what she's going through. Outgrowing something doesn't demean it. I used to spend a LOT of time on fannish pursuits, way more than a few hours a week. And I'm outgrowing it now. After almost two decades, I'm finally outgrowing it. It's a bittersweet, kind of sad experience but at the same time it leaves me much more hopeful about where my future is going.

You're also talking to someone who has been to war and is coming back now and finding herself a different person. Claiming that she feels that her experiences changed her and aged her is somehow "demeaning" fandom folk? How much more immature can you get? You're kind of proving the OP's point, right there.

OP, it's both a blessing and a cruse to outgrow fandom. You've got my sympathies because it's never easy to lose something that was once a source of comfort and amusement. It might be that you leave fandom entirely, it might be that you just engage with it in a different way. Either way, I wish you the best.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

How would you feel if someone said, "I've finally outgrown my astronomy hobby"? Or "It makes me much more hopeful about where my future is going that I've finally outgrown my phase of volunteering in charitable associations"?

[(Anonymous)]

As someone who used to be really not astronomy as a kid but who doesn't have much passion for it anymore, someone outgrowing an astronomy habit wouldn't bother me at all. And charitable associations? Come on. Fandom is a lot of fun for a lot of people and sometimes it's used for fundraising for disaster relief, but the vast majority of fandom has nothing to do with that. You can't compare the two.

[(Anonymous)]

You keep missing the point, so I'll just keep it simple:

The word "outgrow" by definition means that one can become 'bigger' in some way than the thing one outgrows. You outgrow trousers when you become too tall or too thick to get into them. You outgrow a bed when you become too long or too heavy to sleep in it. So now tell me: in what specific way(s) do you feel one can become 'too big' for fandom?

[(Anonymous)]

protip: While growing up can sometimes be seen as outgrowing things, they are not perfect synonyms. Phrases have many layers and many uses, and picking the one that you find insulting just for the sake of being insulted makes you appear to need a little growing up yourself.

[(Anonymous)]

OP said "I grew up" (not "I changed"), and directly related this growing up to their disinterest in fandom. What do you think they meant by that?

[(Anonymous)]

Uh, I think I meant 'I gained more responsibility in both my personal and professional life and now, possibly related, I no longer have as strong an interest in fandom and that makes me sad'. Another protip: your interpretation is wrong kthxbye.

[(Anonymous)]

You're still making a relation between being a 'grown', 'responsible' adult and losing interest in fandom - which might very well be true in your case, but if you don't make it clear that you don't think it has to be the same for everyone else, then don't be surprised if people assume that you're one of the many out there who automatically equate being in fandom with being immature and irresponsible. If it quacks like a duck, you know?

Also: don't keep using "protip" when you're not actually a professional in the domain you're pretending to school other people on. It only makes you look condescending.