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fandomsecrets2011-06-05 03:36 pm
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:18 pm (UTC)(link)And it's not that aggressiveness is an individual trait, oh no. Heaven forbid we have a woman be aggressive enough to stand up to at least one leader of powerful factions within a city, a woman aggressive enough or confident enough to claw her way upward from a penniless refugee to one of the top dogs in Kirkwall. And it's ludicrous to think that a woman who did what she had to in order to get what she wanted - security, prosperity - would find herself an equal in romantic relationships, because like hell is F!Hawke a "typical alpha male" in those four relationships. Go take a second look there, cupcake, I'll wait.
Done? Good. Here's the thing: F!Hawke can be tender with Merrill. Is that typically an alpha male response? She can also be kind to Fenris, be playful with Isabela, be devoted to Anders, and all of these people can be really fucking hard to love. Tell me these are all "typical alpha male" responses. Go on. Because I really want to hear from you how if those qualities belong to men and only men, what's left for us women, because you seem to have narrowed that particularly field down to something very few women would want to play in.
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:24 pm (UTC)(link)Calling me cupcake isn't winning you points on the sexism meter either.
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:33 pm (UTC)(link)NA, was just about to point this out. Gotta love those weekend SJ warriors who get outraged at everyone else but are blind to their own fail
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:39 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 11:35 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
I just get to mock you for it.
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)Nice. Go check your privilege, you twit.
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-06 12:31 am (UTC)(link)Would someone please explain this to me?
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:45 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 09:53 pm (UTC)(link)WHAT DID I MISS?!?!?!
This sounds De-Licious!
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 09:59 pm (UTC)(link)The fandom tripped all over itself trying to shame her, and the mods sat on their hands and did nothing until it was practically over, making "shame on you" noises and sending people to time out, and there was a lot of public angst about feelings and respect and sexism and whatever. And thus began the fandom's nosedive on livejournal.
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...Because I'm a mature and capable person. :|
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:37 pm (UTC)(link)For the record: I never said that only women who are dominant and aggressive in relationships are capable of clawing their way up a social ladder. You're the one trying to stuff those words into my mouth.
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-05 08:41 pm (UTC)(link)How about just not calling people cupcake, which is a longstanding derogatory feminine term?
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-06 03:24 am (UTC)(link)Uh, it's not completely a male attribute. But it is primarily a male attribute.
Say what you want about men and women being equal, but we do have our differences in biology. Aggressiveness and assertiveness is something that is more commonly found in males than females (not just in humans, but in any species), so it's not surprising that many female players won't relate to a woman who acts in an "alpha male" esque way.
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(Anonymous) 2011-06-06 04:37 am (UTC)(link)Also, you view about the "other species" it's pretty anthropocentric.