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⌈ Secret Post #1655 ⌋

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[The Secret of NIMH/Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH]

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[Professor Layton and the Mask of Miracle]

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[Homestuck]

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[Sailor Moon, Yu-Gi-Oh!]

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[True Grit]

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[Aqua Teen Hunger Force]

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[Pretty Little Liars]

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[I'm From Barcelona]

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[SJR]

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[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]

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(Lindsay Ellis/Channel Awesome)

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[Teahouse]

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[HIM (band), Bam Margera]

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[Mahou Sensei Negima!]

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[Russell T. Davies]

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[Britney Spears]

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[Rome]

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[Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones]

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[Victorious]

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[Glee]

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[Eerie Cuties]

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[Last of the Summer Wine]

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[Agora]

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[Doctor Who]

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[Hannah Murray]

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[Florence + the Machine (Cosmic Love)]

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[The Borgias]

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I'm not the OP or really straight in any way, but do you seriously think there's no difference between liking someone romantically and connecting to them as a friend?

I'm starting to believe it differs from person to person on how this is perceived. To me, liking someone romantically is actually the rarest(most special) variation while liking someone sexually/physically is more common. I would also rate connecting to someone intellectually as being separate still from either sexual or romantic attraction. To have a relationship, I'd need all 3 factors. Then again, I can have very strong love for friends and it can be very close to(but not quite the same) as romantic love for me. But close enough to get it muddled.

But I've talked to people who seem to feel differently. They either seem to have it more defined, or less defined or have different emphasis. So I think it's really, really difficult to actually know what a person is actually feeling based on any description, because words are almost by definition lacking.

Though I generally agree that the OP can probably tell the difference between romantic attraction and profound friendship.

if you take the lust out of love I find it hard to find the difference. Do I think about them randomly during the day for no reason? Collect stories of incidents during the day because I know they'll make them laugh when I talk to them that night? Want them to feel happy, feel sad when they do, think they look beautiful when they're goofy? Do I want to protect them and find little ways to show them I love them that have nothing to do with anything but that I know it'll make their day when they discover it? Want to spend time with them and feel depressed when too long goes by that I haven't? Push them when I think they need it but always want to be the shoulder they turn to when they need to cry? See them happy and successful and growing? Because that's a deep friendship for me and it's also the love if I take the lust out for my guy. Obviously there's a difference but how hugely different do you think love is between the two once the physical stuff is pared away?

The word "friend" gets tossed around so much nowadays on all the social networking sites that people have completely lost track of its meaning. A friend is supposed to be more than someone who you talked to that one time and has an interest in this thing you also like. There's supposed to be an emotional connection. When you make your first friend when you're a little kid, it's like "fuck yeah, we can take over the world". You share secrets with your friend. Your best friend, you'd lie, cheat and steal for.

Instead it's just one of a thousand other names on a contact list. Friendship is completely anonymous now. You don't ever have to see your friend to have a complete relationship with them - you can just type back and forth with liberal use of smiley faces.

In the event that a (completely, without a doubt, for the purpose of conversation) straight person in such a social circle actually feels a deeper connection to someone of their own sex, and begins to consider a person as more than just a username to exchange words with, then I suspect that yeah, friendship would feel a hell of a lot like romance.

well said.

Hey, online friendship can actually be meaningful too. I moved to another state recently and so everybody I've known in person before is now an online friend. I haven't met my best friend in person yet, but I still get goofy at the thought of us taking over the world together, and I share secrets with her, and yeah, I'd lie, cheat, and steal for her. Friends who met online aren't always just facebook friends, where you add somebody and maybe make small talk with them a few times and then just assume you're "friends" because you're on each other's lists.

Mistaking friendship and romance is actually something I've had trouble with in the past, but. I'm very very gay and one of my really good friends is the opposite gender (he's a guy, I'm a girl) and while I do feel a very close connection to him, it feels completely different than liking someone romantically would. I don't know if I could ever crush on a guy, but if I ever did, and it felt more like how I think about a girl I'd think than how I'd think of a really close but never-ever-go-there guy friend... I don't know, it probably wouldn't happen, but I don't think it would just be mistaking any meaningful social connection for wanting to make out with someone's face.

Slippery slope if you're starting to quantify love as 'this is part of one type of love' 'this isn't'. What about the way I love my sister? I'd die for her in a heartbeat. I'd trust her with my life or my kids (assuming I ever had any). I tell her things I'd never tell anyone else. She's my best friend and has been since we were old enough to connect. Is that romantic? I don't want to have sex with her. We're a snuggly family and it's not unusual to find me curled up next to her with my head in her lap while she plays with my hair while we're talking. Is that romantic? What if I felt the same way about another girl but we weren't related and I still had no desire to get physical sexually with her. Is that romantic? You can't draw a thick black line between versions of love and say they're nothing alike. All love is alike at its base. It's love.

Nope, I'm not saying you love her romantically, or that if you had the exact same feelings about somebody else you weren't related to, that it would automatically be romantic.

I do agree that all love has important things in common. You enjoy being around a person, you feel a strong bond with them, they feel like a part of your life, you want to help them be happy and successful... that happens if you love someone like family or like a friend or like a girlfriend or boyfriend. I'm not saying friends don't matter, or family doesn't matter, or anything like that.

But to some people, there really is a clear difference. My friends are important to me, but there's a different energy to liking someone romantically and liking someone as a friend, at least for me. I don't think there's a universal division for where those lines are for everybody, and for some people there aren't any lines, more like intersecting blurry patches. I guess it's mostly that there are things I feel comfortable doing with a romantic partner, and things I feel about someone I'm romantically attracted to, that wouldn't apply to a friend, no matter how loved and valued the friend. And some of those things include sex, yeah, but there are things on that list that don't really feel sexual to me at all, and they're still romantic-partner-person only.

I'm sorry if I'm bad at explaining it. It's one of those things that has a pretty clear distinction in my head, but no clear explanation XD

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