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The job thread ^ there makes me feel like a piece of shit :(

I'm 27, has no job, no degree and still living with my parents.

You are not alone. I am older than you and have the same problems. :(

I'm disabled and can never get a job, I know how you feel. My folks hate me by now, and I can't stand living with them, but there's nothing I can do.

*hugs*

I'm 28. Had a job and loved the hell out of it. Then I lost it when my social anxiety got so strong that I couldn't handle leaving the house anymore and kept having panic attacks at work.

Now I take care of my elderly father-in-law, who is an abusive douche to me and my husband. And he is currently trying to pressure me into getting disability because he wants all of the money.

The whole situation leaves me feeling trapped and fucking worthless.

This anon is also 27, married, and lives with her in-laws. I do kinda-sorta freelance web design, but don't make anywhere near enough to live on.

I'm going back to school next year though, and if this high school dropout can do it, I bet OP can too!

I'm 25, have been unemployed since 2006, living off a trust fund that's running out of money, and I have no degree. I know I need to find a job, but my last one left me terrified of dealing with customers (one yelled at me and cursed me out in front of my boss...I cried in the bathroom afterwards for a half hour and am still not over it).

What do? :\

Do you have enough money to pay for tuition for school? You should think about community college if not a University. If you can afford it it's worth it to go back. School isn't everything, but certain degrees or even associates degrees can help you land different jobs.

I'm 27, I've got a degree but I doubt it's the kind that will do me much good, and both my parents have died already. I live off my inheritance, in the house I grew up in (that's slowly falling apart), and my big brother checks up on me once in a while. I look around and I want a better life and I want to grow up, but I'm just terrified and I don't know of what. I've decided to go back to my therapist, but now I actually have to go and...do...that.

this sounds like the beginning of a novel

I gave the someone else the same advice above, but if you can afford it you should consider going back to school. I think it's worth it and it will get you out and about so you won't feel like you're just doing nothing. I'm kind of in a similar situation but right now I'm working on furthering my education. When it comes right down to it though, you have to learn to pick yourself up and brave everything life will through at you. You have some resources so you should use them to your advantage.

*throw not through, sorry.

I went without a job for a year and am living with my mother. Hang in there, anon!

I hated that thread too.

I'm 40, living with my mother, unemployed (thanks economy for jossing my degrees!), and friendless IRL. No kids, no hubbie ever and I'm getting desperate to have those before I'm too old to have kids. I recognize that my mom did her best, I love her, but I don't like her at all--we're total opposites in many ways and I'd never choose her for a friend if I had a choice. She totally fucked up my social skills for one.......She's a true loner at heart.......

I have a BS in biology from the 1990s, a Library Science master degree (it's not just shelving books, yo) and a MS in a health degree program, and I can't even find a job as a secretary due to being overqualified (no shit! REALLY?). But I NEED the money and benefits (health insurance, esp. God, I hate America. It's okay to have social health insurance for the elderly but good forbid the younger, working folks get any.......). I have got to get out of living with my mother before I lose it. I don't even qualify for unemployment 'cause I didn't make enough money last year at my job........WTF????????? What savings I do have is going down fast and my mom's 67 but still working. I feel like such a leech.........

It's really hard for me looking for jobs b/c I've been bullied and mobbed at a former position and now I really hate having coworkers.....I see jobs I want but I have an inner resistance to applying 'cause of anxiety of interviewing (yeah, right, it's usually a blank silence) and of having to deal with coworkers again.

Can't find a job in a field that I have a degree in due to "lack of practical experience" (yeah, right) and even the entry-level jobs to get the experience with are being taken by people with 10, 20, 5, etc. years of experience. On my email list, one librarian said that there were 35 applicants for a 6 hour/wk job........Can't even apply for freakin' internships to get experience 'cause I'm NOT a student--have to be a student.......pisses me off. I'm paying off still, over $16000 in debt for those degrees that everyone said would get me a job when I graduated b/c of retirement, etc. Yeah, no.

Advice: Go for the internships while getting the degree. Didn't know I had to be a student to get one........jesus.......I was busy studying trying to get the degrees and going to summer school, fuck summer school....... Stay far, far away from library science (no opportunities unless already experienced, layoffs extensive, libraries closing, etc.), and nursing.........they lie about nursing too having opportunities for employment..........I know a woman with her nursing from an ivy league school and the best she got was $23000

same but 23 but no signs of any oncoming change :(

I'm 26, 27 in less than two months, and same here. I cannot fucking seem to get through school - I wish I could entirely blame ADHD, but I'm not honestly sure WHAT the problem is. ADHD is a problem, anxiety is a problem (it keeps me from going to class), I think I have an undiagnosed LD, but I can't get help for that unless I find paperwork for my ADHD that I've lost...I also can't seem to find anything that consistently and joyfully holds my interest. Seems like the moment I'm required to study a subject I previously liked, I suddenly feel like it's unbearably boring. Am I just a complete brat?!

Also largely friendless (kinda depressed, and just don't have energy to put towards friendships like I did even five years ago), no romantic prospects either.

I work in a service job with people who are more than 5 years younger than me who are somehow managing to rent small apartments, work into Asst. Manager positions, and live on their own. I'm aiming to work up to this myself, if ONLY to have some sort of Plan B. Fuck, I don't even having a working Plan A.

I'm desperate to find a way to pull it together, get a degree, get a career going, get a home and get a partner. I want a life that doesn't constantly feel like it's circling the drain. I'm terribly afraid 30 will roll around, I will have gone from 4 stray grey hairs to half a head's worth, and I will be no closer to that future.

I'm 27, no job, JUST got my AA but still haven't gotten a degree...somebody on my flist was talking about lazy bastards leaching and I'm like...me...

The thing was that when I moved here I got a job posthaste but I found out that my employers were paying me under the table and I've been too afraid of how to deal with it without getting in trouble or getting in trouble that since then, I haven't worked hard for another job because I don't know how to put that on a resume. And I'm afraid that if a potential employer called them, my past employer might knock my block off.

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