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S.O. usually means significant other, no?

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piratesswoop.livejournal.com - 2011-08-09 04:25 (UTC) - Expand

significant other

lmao, just because you're in a relationship with someone it doesn't mean you can never find someone else attractive. That's crazy. Does your SO get angry at you when you find someone other than them attractive? Because that's a red flag.

This. Appreciating how someone [whom you're not dating/married to] looks/acts/etc when you're in a relationship is not cheating, and it's not wrong.

As my parents have always said, they're married, not dead.

I don't find A O'L attractive as McGarrett. Now Mick St. John on the other hand, cheesy as that show was...

I can't imagine having that level of guilt. I'd have to give up so much entertainment!

1. I don't think I share your taste in men.
2. Attraction happens even when you're in a relationship. It's no tragedy, especially if acting on it isn't even an option. I wouldn't feel too guilty.

Attraction is never something you should feel guilty for. Acting on that attraction in some cases might be unwise, but seeing as you're very unlikely to ever meet this guy, you're perfectly fine to think he's hot. I'm sure your SO has thought other people are hot, and should be accepting of the fact that you will too.

I think you need to calm down. We humans are hardwired to think that more that one person is attractive. Stop worrying and just enjoy yourself - and not that you say this in your secret, but if you are in a relationship where your SO feels threatened by you thinking a celebrity is sexy, GTFO of that relationship.

Guilty because you find some other man attractive?

That's pretty sad, bro.

Look, don't touch.

You're going to notice, just don't follow them back to their hotel room and you'll be okay.

I guarantee you your SO finds people besides you attractive. There's no harm in looking or even fantasizing, OP.

Do you really think your SO doesn't ever turn his/her head at an attractive woman/man? If so, you're either blind or naive. Looking =/= cheating. Neither does fantasizing, jsyk.

LOL. rly? cause that has never stopped me.

i've been in a relationship almost 3 years and my bf knows this show is my crack just because Alex O'loughlin. It's not like i'm gonna leave him and fly all the way to the other side of the world to kidnap him and force him to be with me....

although now that i think about it...

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I'm aware that my SO fantasies about other people and I'm ok with that. I do find other people attractive too. Case in point. I feel guilty if I tune into a show every week just to watch another man I find attractive. It feels wrong to me and slightly obsessive or stalker-like. And no, he doesn't get angry about it. It's my own problem.

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goobbledigook.livejournal.com - 2011-08-09 18:03 (UTC) - Expand

Here let me relieve of your guilt. Your S.O. finds others attractive. The world has not ended because of it. Feel free to look at the menu even if you can't order. It's perfectly okay.

Wow. I wouldn't be able to watch television. Nearly everything I watch features men I find way attractive -- sports included.

...Really? I hate to say this, but chances are he finds other people attractive. You can do that while still having and respecting a relationship. It doesn't mean you're gonna cheat. And besides, he's a celebrity whom you're probably not going to run into any time soon...c'mon, man, that's no good.

dude are you serious? You're in a relationship, not blind. It's totally fine =)

I feel the same way about Martin Starr.

Well... as long as you know, at least in your head, that it really is okay to think other people are hot when you're in a relationship. Thinking attractive people are attractive isn't really something you can turn off, and it's no accident that most characters on TV are played by attractive people. Monogamy is about choosing to be with just that one person because that's the kind of life both of you want, not "nobody else should ever be attractive to you and they are, you're not trying hard enough." Cause the latter isn't how humans work.

Eh, I feel ya. It'd make me feel guilty too. My brain's just wired like that.

Sorry OP, but all I could focus on in your secret was AOL. He really is gorgeously hot, isn't he? If ever I had a type, he would be it 200%. :)

Must. Stop. Staring.

Seriously, anon. You're in a relationship. You're not dead. Get over it and enjoy having a pulse. Just because you find someone else attractive doesn't mean you're shameful or dirty, or about to leap into another man's arms.

Seriously, anon.

Seriously. I'd be comfortable betting you almost any amount of money your SO faps to porn. He's probably a regular guy in that respect. And that doesn't mean he's about to leave you, or doesn't find you attractive, either.