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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-11-19 03:38 pm

[ SECRET POST #1782 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1782 ⌋


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(Anonymous) 2011-11-19 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
I think this is a spectacular comment of pointless whining. Obviously if there's no anal sex involved (whether between two guys or a girl and a guy) then it's sort of obvious that lube/prep is not required (with the exception of vaginal sex wherein the woman can't naturally lubricate herself)?

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 12:50 am (UTC)(link)
reading comprehension ftw

"I need to see mentions of lube and preparation before I read porn in slash fic, otherwise I have to stop and skip the scene. I know it's fiction, but all I can think of is how painful it would be."

funny how there's no actual mention of anal anywhere in there
and yet everyone assumed automatically that that was what this is about

it says a lot about people's expectations about slash fic and porn and penetration-centric definitions of sex

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 12:59 am (UTC)(link)
Anal is the only kind of sex that people commonly think you need lube and prep for. No one ever thinks oral sex always hurts without lube.


(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 01:02 am (UTC)(link)
idk, i think if you could not produce saliva, you would be in a world of pain.

(Anonymous) 2011-11-21 05:00 am (UTC)(link)
Theoretically, yeah, but are there any people like that in the real world? (If so, I am sad for them. I've just never heard of this existing.)

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 01:01 am (UTC)(link)
and this is really something worth complaining about...?

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 01:21 am (UTC)(link)
it says a lot about people's expectations about slash fic and porn and penetration-centric definitions of sex

No... it says that most people assume that PENETRATION is going to occur if you're lubing and prepping. One doesn't normally require prep for a handjob. Lube, maybe, but I'm not sure what prep would be required. And since the OP did specify SLASH porn and not het porn, there are only so many holes to work with.

It's not exactly an insane leap of logic to assume s/he was implying anal sex.

[identity profile] mirai-gohan.livejournal.com 2011-11-20 01:06 am (UTC)(link)
Not sure if you're being sarcastic (and if you are, I apologise), but uh. Lube/prep can be required with any kind of sex. Even if the vagina-bearer in the relationship can lubricate hirself. (Not all vagina-bearers are women.) Even if the sex isn't penetrative. I mean, obvs, YMMV, but...*shrug*

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 01:18 am (UTC)(link)
I'm curious (and I mean this honestly, not rudely) as to how lube/prep would be required for non-penetrative sex. Vaginal and anal penetrative, yes, since like I said, not everyone has loose and wet orafices (if you'll pardon the crudity), but... if there's no penetration... what are you prepping and where are you putting the lube?!

[identity profile] mirai-gohan.livejournal.com 2011-11-20 02:41 am (UTC)(link)
Even if all you're doing is rubbing/jerking someone off, the friction can be pretty...unpleasant if you're not slick. So sometimes lube can be helpful even with only surface contact, as it were, happening.

Plus, when I hear "prep", what I generally think of is foreplay in general--making sure the other person is actually aroused and ready for contact, rather than just jumping straight to getting each other off. So for me, say, when I think of "prep" in terms of nonpenetrative sex, I mostly mean (possibly TMI?) the kissing and nongenital touching involved with making sure my girlfriend is wet enough and aroused enough that it won't just be painful or unpleasant when we actually go for the genital touching, y'know? Prep, to me, applies to the entire body, not just to making sure one person's orifice is loose and wet enough for fingers/cocks/toys/tongues/whatever they'll be penetrating with (if you'll also pardon the crudity XD).

That's...sort of a long answer. And it probably hinges largely on my experiences and my interpretation of terms. But that's what I meant, anyway. ^^

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 03:07 am (UTC)(link)
Ah, yeah I wasn't putting the word prep on par with foreplay or your answer would have made a lot more sense. XD

And I forgot about handjobs/etc when I was thinking about lube, though I remembered it when I commented up there. I think NaNo is eating my brain. XD

[identity profile] mirai-gohan.livejournal.com 2011-11-20 06:08 am (UTC)(link)
Oh man, NaNo will do that. I feel you. XDD No worries.

(Anonymous) 2011-11-20 06:17 am (UTC)(link)
re: handjobs: this is one of the acts where uncut men generally have it easier than circumcised men. That's one of the things that the foreskin is FOR--providing some extra give and sensitivity and movement, and directing pre-cum towards lubrication purposes.

[identity profile] ianthine9.livejournal.com 2011-11-20 02:45 am (UTC)(link)
handjobs are much easier with lube. Hence why most guys have a tissue box and lotion next to their bed.