[ SECRET POST #1811 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1811 ⌋


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Comments

[relmneiko.livejournal.com]

Yeah I agree, anon. Crying is private and if you start crying you need to leave. Unless you have some serious emotional issues of the degree that require a therapist and meds, or somebody just died, you're an ADULT. Control yourself.

And before someone jumps on me, this isn't even a gender thing, men and women that do it are equally reprehensible. I will say that men tend to avoid crying like the plague because of social conditioning, and there are women who will use crying as a manipulation tool, while men don't really do that.

Also anon sounds like they come from a culture where emotional displays in general are not acceptable in public - all the comments seem to be ignoring that. I thought this comm was full of anime nerds, come on.

[(Anonymous)]

You're biased, so I don't think you have any right to say anything on randomly crying people. If you think they use it as a tool of manipulation first you need to sort out your own issues.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, but fuck you. Sometimes there isn't the option of just ~hiding away from public~ when you get hit with something upsetting. I am naturally prone to crying. I don't know why, I wish I wasn't, but I am. Especially if I'm tired, and especially if my hormones are going whacky, and my natural response to a variety of negative emotions: stress, sadness, frustration, anger, is to cry. I CAN. NOT. STOP IT. It's embarrassing, I can try to resist it. I have tried pinching myself to distract myself and shit, but chances are? It won't work.

And sometimes it fucking happens in public and there's nothing I can do about it. One time I lost my bag at my university and just felt so fucking STUPID about it that I couldn't resist crying, but I still had to take the bus home. Or another time I was in a chem lab and managed to fuck up all my hard work by being clumsy for one second, it made me feel like a complete idiot, I couldn't help crying a bit out of frustration, but I still had to stick around and salvage what I could. I can't just put my life on hold because I can't control my tears, just because it's embarrassing and makes other people uncomfortable. And you know what? The fact that it's embarrassing and that people can see me and judge me for it FUCKING MAKES IT WORSE and I feel like shit and cry MORE. If anyone tries to talk to me about what's wrong, that makes it worse, too! It's certainly not for attention because I damn well HOPE people just ignore my compulsive crying and pretend it isn't happening.

So just... fuck anyone that thinks a compulsive reaction to emotion is selfish

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in the same boat. I WISH I could magically turn it off the way these people seem to... it just doesn't work.

[amarielah.livejournal.com]

I've been in situations, at least twice, where I've started crying in public. In both cases, I was literally unable to leave, because there was an authority who I had to ask in order to do so. But then, if I asked, it would become absolutely obvious that I was crying, and I didn't want to draw attention to myself. The people next to me could see it, though. So what was I supposed to do? Continue to make the people nearest to me (in space) uncomfortable, or make the entire group and the authority figure uncomfortable?

So no, it's not always as simple as "leaving".