[ SECRET POST#1819 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1819 ⌋


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Comments

[ginpenguin.livejournal.com]

As someone who ended up going to therapy in order to work through and eventually get over codependency. The breakup that was the reason for starting therapy was also the cause of some of the worst depression in my entire life. This confession makes me said and a little bit irked (at the glorification of codependency in the media. I'm more scared for O.P )

Codependency is bad. And very generally, the feelings of 'I will love you forever and do ANYTHING FOR YOU MY SOUL MATE" are one sided. And damaging. As in a fair amount of codependent relationships probably contain some sort of abuse. It's not glamorous anon, don't wish this on yourself or anyone else. It's also hard to shake, even after people who survive it/get over it realize they don't NEED someone else to be happy, full, complete human beings.

And I'm not the least bit surprised that it's something that's potentially glorified in media by some of these couples you used as examples, but it doesn't make it any less sad or scary. I know this is just a fantasy for you Anon, but please be aware of the kind of thing your wanting. It has a pretty high price that can't ever really be paid :/

[green-glee.livejournal.com]

This, I'm shocked by the amount of comments agreeing to this secret o_O OP you do realise that you can be in a deep relationship without being dependant?

[(Anonymous)]

This this this, seriously. I have an old best friend that went through this, and it caused... a lot of pain, and a lot of heartache. I just can't get behind this at all.

[magyargirl3.livejournal.com]

Agreed. I used to have massive problems getting friends because I would latch on to anyone who was even a little bit nice to me (which has its own set of fucked up reasonings behind it). Making someone your entire world is never ever healthy, and only ends in a bunch of resentment, sadness, and pain.

It took going to therapy to realize this about myself, and I hope the OP can talk to someone about this.

[(Anonymous)]

This.

I actually was dealing with the emotions behind this secret and ended up writing a poem about it that dealt with the struggle to realize yourself as a full human being who doesn't need "the other half of your soul". It's not another half, it's a full soul that you maybe will tie yourself to, and you are complete soul yourself.

Society tells us that true romance is a great co-dependent mess... which isn't right or good. It's funny, but for awhile now I have slowly released that idea and realized that I am and will be happy on my own. And if I do meet someone, awesome! We will be two partners-in-crime being awesome together, fully in love, and a great romance... that has nothing to do with needing each other to breath.

But either way? Life is wonderful.