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[ SECRET POST #1830 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1830 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Masterchef Australia]

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[Grimm]

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[Cracked.com]

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[Skulduggery Pleasant]

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[Young Justice]

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[Chobits]

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[Community]

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[Love Actually]

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[FFVII]

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[Hatoful Boyfriend]

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[James Deen]

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32. [SPOILERS for Dead Rising 2: Off The Record]

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33. [SPOILERS for Skyrim]

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34. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for mentions of rape]

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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

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you are all incredibly fucking out of touch and you need to see someone

it's okay to not want to be in a relationship, there's nothing wrong with that, but at the end of the day there is something to be said for human company. if you would prefer the company of a robot just so you can "turn them off" when you need your space, then you are Doing It Wrong-- humanity, that is. relationships are hard and people can be very difficult to deal with, but imperfection is what makes life interesting.

...And it's people like you that make me wish humans had an "off" switch. Just sayin'.

yes, it's hard when people disagree with you, isn't it

More like it's hard when people insist I'm doing it wrong because I don't agree with them.

Yes, I dislike most people and wish they'd shut the fuck up more often and stop being complete tools. No, I don't say this because that would be bad manners, and I'd likely get fired. I grin and bear it until I can get away from them and go home. I prefer being alone.

How, exactly, is that Doing It Wrong? Who am I hurting, here? And if you say "myself" by not basking in the glow of human interaction that I can't fucking stand, why does that even matter to you? I'm some random person on the internet whom you will never meet.

Not op fyi.

I'm not nearly so misanthropic.

Will make more substantial post in the morning.

idk i understand being introverted but if other people actually anger you that much just by virtue of existing then it sounds like.... a problem...

They don't anger me by existing, they anger me by being assholes. Very often of the Concern Troll variety and bothering the crap out of me "for my own good." If people could learn to take very clear hints that what they're doing or saying is irritating (sometimes borderline offensive) and cut that shit out, I'd like them a lot more. But they can't. For some reason offline I tend to draw the attention of people who are trying to make other people's lives a carbon copy of theirs.

You and I must have been separated at birth. You pretty much got my social life and the things "Concern" Trolls and other assholes say to me in a nutshell, everyday.

I made the first comment about wanting to "turn people off" and hey, it's cool that you're a social person, but some of us aren't. There are a lot of people who are just nonsocial. I prefer to be alone, and I'm okay. You prefer human company, and you're okay.

We're both okay. Keep your judgment to yourself, you're just making yourself look like a jerk. Not all people are just like you. jsyk.

This.
I'm also rather introverted, but guess what, there are other people just like me- I can form meaningful relationship with them, which allow me enough me-time, without neglecting them.
Dealing with people empathically gives me more sympathy for myself and my faults...

I can't. No relationship with another human being could ever be "meaningful" to me, because no matter how nice they act on the surface, underneath it I know they're just selfish dicks who are doing it to get something in return. Given the chance to do so, everyone will screw over their best friend/lover/parent/child/relative/whatever in order to further themselves. It's a fact of life.

Wow, you sound really bitter, seriously.

Also parents are generally likely to die for their children. In nature you see it all the time - it's a biological imperative to protect offspring. Unless your parents are seriously fucked up abusive types, they have probably done shitloads of stuff for you and sacrificed things for you all your life. You can be as misanthropic as you like, but Darwin would like to have a word with you.

People die to save others all the time. In war, firefighters, whatever. My brother's friend's little sister donated bone marrow to save her brother's life. You know how painful that procedure is? People donate organs and such for family members all the time. I don't know what bigger sacrifice you can make than cutting off a part of your body and giving it to a loved one.

You can make a decision that is both selfish and selfless at the same time. "I don't want to lose this person because it would devastate me". It becomes selfish to want to protect them even if it costs you, in a way. Emotional dependence is a strange thing.

You say "bitter" like it's a bad thing.

Darwin can't have a word with me because he's kind of dead. And if you had been through half of what I have, I think you'd have a hard time not hating the hell out of people, too.

Do fuck off.

...in what context is it a good thing?

You're either sarcastic or taking me way too literally. Are you the same anon who's still hung up over my comments on bullying?

You don't seem like the type to respond to emotional appeal, so here's a logical one: any douchebags you have known in your life are a statistically small percentage of the population. Is it rational to hate the entire human race based on a statistically insignificant portion of it? You need a bigger sample size to be able to hate everyone reasonably.

I think it would do you some good to exchange bitterness for cold, hard realism.

If you really wanted me to go away, I don't think you would have replied to my comment.

I think it would do you some good to exchange bitterness for cold, hard realism.

Oh, you. brb, loling forever.

The thing is, I am terrible at personal relationships and and dealing with other humans just becomes a chore for me after a while. Human company is nice sometimes, but having a robot companion means that I don't have to deal with subtlety and social niceties and reading people's mood and stuff like that, which is highly preferable. Plus they are completely predictable, which means that for once I know how to act around them.

OP here.

I guess the desire is founded on two central pillars of my personality. The first is that I have a fundamental obsession with viewing interpersonal relationships as powerplays, everything gets filtered through the lens of a constant assertion of social superiority and dominance, all in myriad tiny ways and subtle reinforcements. And I can’t stand to be the one who loses, the one judged as of lower standing. This intensifies itself when I have a girlfriend, because I become driven to emphasise that I’m smarter, more educated, more socially au fait, more cemented in my career goals, generally more connected, more etc. So every minute we’re together I find myself constantly being on guard, carefully calculating what I’m going to say, avoiding any screw-ups, and worst, playing off any insecurities they have to establish my position. Worse, if I perceive them to have gone too far in attacking me in some way, I will consider any retaliation kosher, and have in the past said some incredibly barbed hurtful things that I know will emotionally crush them.

This isn’t because I need the feel to have power over people, rather it’s because I find people having power over me absolutely unbearable, and this is the only real way to avoid that. This doesn’t make the collateral damage any less severe, however – I wrote a letter to an ex, that three years later when we’d become friends again, she confided to me, she’d kept onto and routinely read and burst into tears over to remind herself why we’d broken up.

The second pillar that ties strongly into this one, is that I am very, very good at reading people. I pick up on the subtlest tonal changes, looks, word choice, or body language. Imagine talking to an individual whilst they held up a dozen neon signs telling you different things about the conversation, trying to track them all, and trying to track how you compose yourself at the same time. It becomes incredibly mentally exhausting, if I spend too long with someone I want to scream from the overload. Now take into account that I spend all day working with the public and colleagues, come home, and then instantly have to comport myself as one is expected to in a relationship, right up until we’re lying together in bed, and I’m anxious about where I need to put my hands, whether I’m breathing too much, how fresh I am, if I’m moving too much, how the night has affected her perception of me, etc.

Then I have to get up and do it all again, ad nausea.

It’s just so tiring.

So the idea of someone who I didn’t have to worry about any of that with. Who I could just be myself for once in my life, who I could actually emotionally confide in with no worry. It’s just so liberating.

And yeah, I’m aware this probably isn’t super healthy and I should see a therapist.

Yep, people like you are exactly why I avoid human contact whenever I can. You prove my point about people secretly being self-absorbed douchebags.

Right.

I'm the bad guy, because I'm painfully aware of my flaws, and whilst I hate interacting with people, I still fundamentally like them. Whereas you're some disenfranchised misanthrope who's repeatedly attacked everyone around you for failing to meet some perfect standard.

No, you're the bad guy because you treat people like crap, and only "like" people as long as they don't make you look bad.

I don't attack anyone, by the way, and never have. I hate human interaction, but I keep my misanthropy to myself. Nobody around me knows my true feelings. You, on the other hand, actively treat people shittily, you know you treat people shittily, and you know why, but you do nothing to stop it or correct your behavior. That is why you're a fucking asshole.

/applause

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(Anonymous) - 2012-01-07 22:58 (UTC) - Expand

If I were you I would see a therapist to help ease the anxiety which is leaving you so routinely drained and overwhelmed. And the sensory overload----that part especially, with the way you described it reads off as something scary, agonizing even. It sounds like your brain’s processes are being swallowed up by your own brain and that’s probably why you can’t cope in social interactions with other people you believe want to judge/dominate you.

Sorry 'brains processes being swallowed by my own brain'?

Could you expand upon/further clarify that. I'm not sure exactly what you're driving at with your metaphor their.

I'm talking about the senses and perception side. How the OP fixates on body language, words, and so on. Based on how all that info is processed then acts according to what would make sense in whatever interaction.

At some point the OP is overwhelmed by all this repetition of how to think and react, so to me it sounds like the OP is lost in their own brain.

Ahahaha I hope this doesn't sound too flippant, but have you read Kimi wa Pet? You might identify with the protagonist. :P

You should... probably get a dog. It's easy to dominate a dog.

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