[ SECRET POST #1896 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1896 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Is it really that hard to think someone doesn't like OT3s? I personally vastly dislike such a thing in my shipping. It's not uncommon.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Sorry, I just don't get the hate- maybe it's because I know actual poly people, so saying that you vastly dislike it feels a bit like someone saying 'slash is icky' when they're talking to people whose best friends happen to be gay.

Why do you dislike OT3s so much? (not attacking, just curious)

[(Anonymous)]

DA, but...real life versus fiction and all that. I was just talking to a friend today about love triangles, and how in books, you're usually supposed to like the main character in that triangle. In real life? The reaction tends to be "just make up your mind, you selfish person you."

I personally like my fiction to rely heavily on the soul mates idea, one and one, but I don't carry that over to real life. I also have poly friends, and I'm not generally a jealous person, so I've even had open relationships that lasted a good while. Real life and fiction are separate things when it comes to preferences.

[(Anonymous)]

Because it's not at all appealing to me. It doesn't mean I hate people that do like it or think, IRL, it's a terrible lifestyle, but I don't like it in fandom, so I just don't read it. I wasn't popping in to shit on your life or anything, just to state that it's not uncommon for someone to dislike poly pairings, and it's not fair to be all confused that someone wouldn't be. It's a taste, pure and simple.

[(Anonymous)]

I find it really hard to comprehend why some people don't like reading any poly fic. I get having certain OTPs you don't want messed with, but not being interested in any threeway relationships under any circumstances seems so weird to me. It's like never wanting to read a story where someone has two best friends, rather than one best friend. It seems so arbitrary to rule out the idea completely.

Generally I just assume that people just haven't found the right poly pairing for them, yet. (I sort of assume this with people who ship only slash and not het, or vice versa, too.) But I guess it could also be people who are mono themselves wanting to read only stories that explore their own desires? Or people who have had the 'love = monogamy' idea shoved down their throat by society so much that they literally don't believe people can be in love in polyamourous relationships?

IDK. IDK.

[megalomaniageek.livejournal.com]

It really isn't that arbitrary. What I don't get is why people who have exclusive fictional reading preferences are seen as somehow odd. Preference for a genre does not mean intolerance of its opposite. I happen to like poly a lot in fiction but both in real life and in fic it just isn't for everybody.

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ayrt

I guess it's just that I don't really have any exclusive preferences - anything that I won't read under *any* circumstances is something I have a strong aversion to for a particular reason. Other than that I just have 'things I mostly read' and 'things I read rarely'. So if someone says that never read something, my default thought in response is to wonder what drives them away from it. Avoiding something despite there being nothing particularly disagreeable about it just seems really random to me.

But perhaps I am just wired differently to people with exclusive preferences. :)

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da

anon, i am the same way.

*brofist*

[megalomaniageek.livejournal.com]

I think it does depend on the person. I'm very picky about certain preferences and not others. I have lots of things I just won't read. I'm reeeeeally picky about kinks. If I see something I don't want to read for whatever reason labeled, or come across it in the fic, I just scroll past/back button. To me it's perfectly reasonable to avoid something because I just do not care to read it.

[(Anonymous)]

Or people who have had the 'love = monogamy' idea shoved down their throat by society so much that they literally don't believe people can be in love in polyamourous relationships?

Or people who believe that there can be love in poly relationships but they don't think they could do it because they truly believe in monogamy and not because it was "shoved down their throat by society".

Why don't you learn to respect people?

[(Anonymous)]

Uh. I said people who didn't want to read poly fic could be "people who are mono themselves wanting to read only stories that explore their own desires" OR "people who have had the 'love = monogamy' idea shoved down their throat by society so much that they literally don't believe people can be in love in polyamorous relationships".

The example you gave would fall into the first category.

I don't think all mono people don't believe poly people can truly be in love. And I don't think if you're mono that means you've been indoctrinated into being so. I think there are mono people, and there are poly peope, and that's fine. But I think anyone who tells other people whether they are "really" experiencing love based on who they are with (including how many people at once) has probably taken that stance because they were culturally taught to.

I think you misunderstood my comment.

[xenafox.livejournal.com]

Um wow, this is vaguely insulting. My best friend is poly, and I accept it, like to hear about the times she has with her partners, etc etc. But poly in fanfic just isn't my thing. It doesn't suddenly become something I enjoy reading just because of her lifestyle. Not enjoying reading it certainly doesn't mean disapproving of it irl.