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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-03-23 07:01 pm

[ SECRET POST #1907 ]


⌈ Secret Post #1907 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[X-Men: First Class]


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18. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual abuse]



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19. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]



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(Anonymous) 2012-03-24 04:05 am (UTC)(link)
I'm a gay woman and my rapist was a woman too. I think it actually fucked me up more than it would have if she'd been a man. Before it happened, I was young, but I knew my orientation and was pretty confident in it. After, I couldn't trust other women, I thought that since I didn't enjoy it I had to be straight, I thought that since she was a girl and I had a crush on her, it couldn't have been rape. I got into a lot of relationships with guys that I didn't want to be in, I questioned my sexuality over it for years, and it was a lot harder to come out when I finally came to the same conclusion that I'd had before I was raped in the first place. It would have still been horrible if my rapist was a guy (assuming that he would still have the same motives), but I don't think it would have destroyed my sexual identity in the same way. (This is not to say what's worse for everyone, though- just my beliefs about my own experiences.)

I mean, if a man's raping a gay woman because he hates gay women, and she's aware of why he's doing it, then it's a hate crime on top of a rape and that might make it worse. I'm not very familiar with the asexual movement, but if somebody rapes an asexual person because they hate asexual people, and that asexual person is aware of why they're doing it, then it's probably also a hate crime. But that has nothing to do with whether the rapist is the kind of person they'd enjoy having sex with in the first place- it's that not only is the victim being subjected to a violent crime, it's that said violent crime is someone deciding that who they are is so repugnant that it warrants violent punishment. Also, if in a hate crime situation the victim's community finds out about the rape, then every other person in that group in the area is going to be fucking terrified they're next. All rapes are awful, but when it's a hate crime too, it's two things instead of one.

But sex pollen? Sex pollen is not sentient. It's not a person that can decide to commit a crime, it's not a person that can hate. It's just... pollen. That makes you have sex. Perhaps the asexual person there would feel extra violated because they're doing things that they never would do without the sex pollen, but wouldn't everybody else be doing things they'd never do otherwise too? In that situation it's really offensive to say it's worse, because "sexual" doesn't mean "is okay with sex in every possible set of conditions," dammit.