[ SECRET POST #1951 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1951 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

...why?

"I don't want to talk to you because you over-glorify me and make me uncomfortable."
"I don't want to talk to you because you creep me out."

They're valid reasons to not be someone's friend, aren't they? Even if it wasn't the intention of the person being creepy or over-glorifying, if somebody thinks you're doing it, it's perfectly fine for them not to be your friend, isn't it?

Why is it suddenly terrible if a BNF does it? Why do they owe everyone friendship?

[(Anonymous)]

I got the impression that the OP thought it was very hard to find that middle ground because their words were interpreted either as worshipful or creepy no matter what they said. I could be wrong.

Also that bit about BNF's being cliquey with each other - which I'm sure they don't all do, and certainly not always on purpose, but I'm also sure that it does happen, and it's a legitimate reason to be annoyed. No one likes cliqueish behavior, except sometimes the people in the cliques.

Personally I don't care that much about talking to BNF's, but I can see why this would be frustrating. If they're "just people" after all it would suck to not be able to communicate with them the way you communicate with other people.

[spiritlobo.livejournal.com]

Well, as I should have said, that's how I see it :) I'm no "all knower of everything that is to be known", I just know the fandoms I've been in, I've seen people be legit nice to a BNF and get totally ignored. Then again, the few BNF's I've experienced have usually been amazingly rude and unkind and totally okay with making horrific assumptions about people they know nothing about and totally okay with telling others these assumptions that were seriously no good. BUT! I'm not here to burden you with my silliness XD

It's not "terrible", but it is a little disappointing when I see it because, just as I said above, the BNF is often what one first entering a fandom sees. And, as I've usually experienced, that A) Dictates how future members act or B) creates this rift in a fandom in which people fall into fractions and no one ever wants to experience that in fandom.

THEN AGAIN! That's just how I see things and that's just they way I think XD Oh god, reading that back that sounds so naive ;A;