[ SECRET POST #1954 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #1954 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.


__________________________________________________



10.


__________________________________________________



11.


__________________________________________________



12.


__________________________________________________



13.


__________________________________________________



14.


__________________________________________________



15.


__________________________________________________



16.


__________________________________________________



17.


__________________________________________________



18.


__________________________________________________



19.


__________________________________________________



20.






Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 040 secrets from Secret Submission Post #279.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[have_no_mercy]

Oh, hon, you were in the same place not so very long ago. I get not wanting minors to have access to your work if it's adults only, but to not even want to talk to them? That's a mite hypocritical.

[thechameleonnn.livejournal.com]

this.

it bugs me the older i get, but i look back and remember i started looking for smutfic when i was nine. i won't direct them to that stuff personally, but if they find it on their own, i can't really stop them, can i? most of that stuff you have to look for anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

I know folks who make tons of adult jokes practically by default during conversation, but they'd feel uncomfortable with mid-teen or younger kids hearing them, nm directing innuendolicious comments at them by accident. Online doesn't have to be any different; if it makes someone feel more comfortable with their own journal space and whom they can freely talk to to exclude minors from the conversation, why not? Is it much different from a kid blocking/unfriending, etc. their parents or anyone older than them from their sites?

[have_no_mercy]

It was a comment very specific to the person I was responding to.

[(Anonymous)]

sa

I don't know what op of this thread has said/done, but I think the basic point still stands... there are some things that I had felt comfortable talking or joking about as a minor to someone older or potentially older that I didn't know that I wouldn't feel comfortable talking or joking about now as an adult with a minor that I didn't know. Younger-me would probably look askance at current-me (and I would rather have a "clean" journal to accept all-ages than block/defriend/unfollow without saying anything), but I think there's a difference between changing one's mind over time and being hypocritical.

(Apologies if I have totally misinterpreted things or if this is something you'd rather not have an anon comment on.)

[(Anonymous)]

I understand, because I was looking for naughty things at 14 -- though it was different naughty things as there was no Internet. HOWEVER -- I've done the same as gethenian, and try desperately not to friend/add/follow anyone under 18, and drop them the minute I discover that they are under 18. I mean, no, I can't stop them from viewing my public 18-plus-rated fic and discussions. And it's not that I think they aren't worth listening to or can't be more mature than an 18-year-old. But as for following/friending/speaking to them back? I think about their parents, and how they would feel to find out their teenager/high-schooler was discussing adult fandom things with someone of my age. They'd think it was fucking creepy and it is.

I interact with my fandom friends and followers. Meet them. Send them cards. Answer private messages. And not long after I unfollowed everyone on tumblr whom I discovered was under 18, I saw a post about some girl who, at age 22, was called a creeper by some 16/17-year-old girl's parents for sending the girl a present in the mail. The minor, living at home, gave her home address to someone on the internet without her parents' permission. And yeah, of course the 22-year-old girl wasn't meaning to be a predator of some kind. But what if she had been? And how are her parents supposed to know that just because someone years older than their MINOR shares an OTP, then that means they're no threat, of course?

By ceasing all electronic communication with an under-18-year-old person that I haven't met and whose parents I don't know, I am protecting myself from accusations and misunderstandings.

[(Anonymous)]

THIS.

I realize I'm a few days late to this party, but you deserve to be recognized for your good sense and your rational, logical, and above all, respectable delivery of very important points that more people should probably think about a little more often.

Thank you for having left this comment. I hope it adds new perspective to things for as many people as possible.