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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-05-13 03:49 pm

[ SECRET POST #1958 ]


⌈ Secret Post #1958 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 02:01 am (UTC)(link)
If I was you, I would be seriously rethinking my association with this loon. From how I've seen them act on F!S they're basically a reverse Rush Limbaugh. D:

[identity profile] curseangel.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 02:12 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, being vehemently against bigotry is EXACTLY THE SAME as being a bigot! Uh huh! Right!

You're an idiot.

(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 02:27 am (UTC)(link)
It is very easy to become what you despise. In your crusade to rid the world of bigotry, you've become as bad as what you're fighting. Nietzsche said it best- "battle not with monsters lest you become one, and when you gaze into the abyss, the abyss also gazes into you."

You, sir/madam, have become just as corrupt as what you're fighting against, and it's literally painful to watch. So yes, you basically are what Limbaugh would be if his political beliefs did a complete 180.

[identity profile] curseangel.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 02:30 am (UTC)(link)
Uh-huh.

Okay, sure.

Tell me, PLEASE tell me, who am I oppressing by being anti-bigotry? Who am I doing serious harm to? Whose rights am I denying? What LAWS am I advocating that would cause serious harm to people by being against bigotry? Please, I am just DYING to know.

You'd be fucking hilarious if your false equivalence didn't make me so damn sad for the world.

(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 02:34 am (UTC)(link)
Your hatred only begets more hate, and when people see that you hate them, their own hatred grows. And you aren't exactly anti-bigotry, you are just as hateful as the people you claim to fight against. Look at your responses to the people who were being perfectly reasonable in this thread. Look at your responses to someone who is your friend- that is not friendship. That is pure cruelty and emotional manipulation.

Maybe someday you will see this, but I honestly have very little hope that you will. You've become addicted to outrage, and it's harder to kick that habit than it is to stop smoking crack.

[identity profile] curseangel.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 02:59 am (UTC)(link)
To reasonable people I have been fairly reasonable in response. However, since they decided to come into the thread in the middle of a fairly charged discussion, for lack of a better word, yes, I did get snappish and use some angry language (here please distinguish between "angry language" and "actually insulting someone"). I've admitted several times on f!s that I often appear much angrier than I am. /shrug Call it a flaw.

As for my brief discussion here with my friend, I'll thank you not to assume you're getting the full story just from what's here. Not least because I seemed to ignore or breeze over several things because we've had this exact same debate before and I had already talked to them about those things. And I fail to see where I was emotionally manipulative or cruel.

And yeah, I'm basically blowing you off because I tend to pay little or no attention to the kinds of assholes who barge in and decide that my being angry at misogyny is the exact same thing as the right trying to deny me the right to marry.

(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 03:04 am (UTC)(link)
Misogyny is like an AK-47 of a word, and you keep pulling it out when a pellet gun would do.

You're over-the-top. Someone using a word you don't like in anger doesn't necessarily make them a misogynist. Maybe a bit of an ass, but misogyny is a very, very specific word that loses meaning when you toss it out any time someone says "twat" or "bitch."

[identity profile] curseangel.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 03:14 am (UTC)(link)
Okay, um, first of all, the "bitch" and other words threads were in other posts; I assumed (perhaps naively) that we were discussing my posts in this thread.

As to that, I have calmed down considerably on the language issue. I do still feel that those words are misogynist, though. And I don't consider it a bad thing to call them what they are.

And brony culture, as it were, IS misogynist. The word is -- "brony" is a men-only subfandom/subculture group that purposely excludes women. They also browbeat, threaten, insult, hurl slurs at, etc. woman fans if they dare to think they have a space in the fandom. Further, they act as if because they are men, their opinions, feelings, and fandom of the show are more valid and more important than those of the female fans the show was made for (particularly, I've seen bronies en masse throw fits over the fact that MLP toys are made with - gasp! - little girls in mind, not grown men). They essentially seek to co-opt a show that was made for women and girls because they are men and have decided that space should be theirs, and that is misogynistic.

Misogyny is a word that should be used whenever misogyny occurs or is present. It doesn't "lose its meaning" because we use it to address even more subtle, culturally-validated forms of misogyny like sexist language (bitch, etc.), magazine covers, or subcultural groups where misogyny is normalized and enabled (bronies, the Republican party, etc.).

[identity profile] harpsi-fizz.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 02:47 am (UTC)(link)
Just so you know, I'm never going to give up on you. Not just because there's good in everyone, but because I've seen the good in you and it's too good to just say "forget it, not worth saving".

And I'll promise you this, too: if one day you find another battle plan in the crusade, I would no sooner bring up your old methods than I would bring up my birth name. 'Cause that's not who we are anymore, and there's nothing wrong with that.

[identity profile] curseangel.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 03:01 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks, I guess? I don't really see where I'm being "bad" except that I got pissed off.

[identity profile] otakugal15.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 03:55 am (UTC)(link)
Love this comment.

[identity profile] harpsi-fizz.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 02:32 am (UTC)(link)
I can see how from an outside Point of View, your advice is out of serious concern. At the risk of sounding like a pretentious dizzy-headed loon myself, the moment I read your reply, the opening lines of DMB's "Cry Freedom" went through my head- How can I turn away? Brother, Sister go dancing through my head, human as to human. Maybe the whole song.

I could extrapolate about how doing that would be the same as helping to lock her in eternal hate prison (which nobody should ever have to be in), but the base answer is I can't think of any other explanation than "how can I turn away?".

Lemmie put it this way- suppose 24 year old Rush Limbaugh had a friend he respected- a white, rich hetero male- who never stopped saying "Hey, Rush, listen... that's not alright what you're saying. You're better than that. Let's go do something positive"? It might have... weird, I kinda just feel like crying. I think it's the song.

At the very least, the anon previous to you said s/he's rethinking how they word things, so that's one less bit of hate in the world. That's good.

(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 02:41 am (UTC)(link)
Hmm, that does make sense. And maybe you are right, maybe it would have saved him and he wouldn't have become what he is today.

But there comes a point in time when an individual passes the point of no return. Limbaugh crossed that line a long time ago, and I fear your friend may have done the same. But you know them better than I do, and you probably have a better barometer for it, but please, do not get sucked in. You seem like such a sweet person, from what I've seen of your posts. It makes me sad to see you so obviously upset by this other user. Friends don't treat friends like that. :(

(I'm sorry if this comes off as pretentious, too- I've just seen so many relationships like this in the past that end badly, both IRL and online).

(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 02:44 am (UTC)(link)
SA

But you are right about one thing. A friend wouldn't lock another friend in an eternal hate prison, to use your phrase. But you should take care to not get yourself locked in too.

Argh, I shouldn't read F!S when I've been drinking. Whisky makes me maudlin.

[identity profile] harpsi-fizz.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 03:02 am (UTC)(link)
Maudlin away, BB. The thing is, I've been there. In high school, I was an absolute beast of a Limbaugh, complete with listening to Air America and calling meat eaters murderers. I don't quite know what got me to calm down, but it happened.

I promise you I'm not upset by the other user. I can't get upset with people! I get upset thinking "what horrible things did you go through that made you like that? That must've been really bad for you".

No getting sucked in. I can assure you, I have safeguards. A strict 3:1 ratio of positive happy things to negative things. I spend most of my days in mortuary school, and lemmie tell you, if there ever was a reminder of "what good is it in the end?" that's it. Aside from that, there's always plenty of humor and RPing and knowing when to say out loud "I'm going to remove myself from this situation". Which I suppose I should do now. Time for more microbiology and a lie down.

Thank you for your concern, but I'm just hoping that you're taking care of yourself. Just remember WWPD: What Would Pinkie Pie Do?

(Anonymous) 2012-05-15 03:07 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks. And you too.

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BTW, this is totally what Pinkie Pie would do. :P

[identity profile] inkedfeathers.livejournal.com 2012-05-15 06:46 am (UTC)(link)
Best of luck. ♥