[ SECRET POST #1967 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1967 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 051 secrets from Secret Submission Post #281.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

My husband RPs with me and I adore it, and I do things for him that don't turn me on but that he likes. But still, when it comes to sex it's important to be able to have personal boundaries. If you really do feel uncomfortable, don't do it, and your girlfriend should understand.

Now that we've gotten that out of the way, and I really need to make it clear that personal boundaries are totally okay, I do think you should think about your reasons, and I have some further comments regarding those based on the phrasing of the secret. I can't help but feel like "lol somebody needs to get over themselves" if the problem is you're too inhibited to ever be silly and ridiculous in bed. RPing is about acting and pretending. Who cares if her weight, hair, gender, and height is wrong for the part? You're not putting on a play in front of a packed house. It's just the two of you, right?

[(Anonymous)]

I would disagree with the latter. If idfk someone acting coy and moe doesn't turn you on, it doesn't turn you on and if your partner is acting like that and expecting you to be turned on anyway. Thats like insisting that your nonsubmissive partner be totally ok with roleplaying your d/s fantasies then complaining when your dominatrix act, which is not anything like you normally, doesnt turn them on. No. Thats not how attraction works

[(Anonymous)]

Usually when you do something just for your partner to make them happy, both people should understand that the person who doesn't get off on that stuff won't be getting off on it, they're doing it for the other person.
Going along with your example, if Jane is into d/s and Sam isn't, then Sam has no obligation to roleplay d/s, but they might want to in order to make Jane happy. This doesn't mean Sam is suddenly into d/s, and nobody has implied such.
However if Sam makes a secret public post strongly implying that the reason they don't want to do d/s is because Jane looks "ridiculous" in her leather dominatrix outfit because she's too fat, and because Sam thinks d/s is stupid, then it's okay for people to disagree with Sam and question Sam's reasoning, even though Sam is still totally within their rights to say no to d/s and nobody should say otherwise.

[(Anonymous)]

that example still makes me sad for Jane :( Jane should find someone who thinks that she is sexy, not ridiculous

[(Anonymous)]

umm...i don't want my bedroom activities to be silly or ridiculous, thanks. that's not what sex is about for me. it has nothing to do with being uninhibited. why don't you get over yourself and stop telling people how they should have sex?