[ SECRET POST #1981 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1981 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 68 secrets from Secret Submission Post #283.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Wow. I could've written this secret in my sleep. This is me, down to my concerns and having a very conservative family.

I still label myself as "straight" though--it's really, really rare that I like another girl, so I feel like if I labeled myself as bisexual it would come off as disingenuous and sort of like I'm an overly excited kid bouncing up and down going "me too! me too!" when I clearly prefer guys.

[(Anonymous)]

Same. I mean, I've only been physically attracted to one girl in my entire life. I even almost had sex with a female friend once and was not into it. I think I can safely assume that I'm straight even if every once in awhile I find a woman attractive.

I don't think you have to like men and women 50/50 to be bi, but at the same time, just because you find one or two women attractive doesn't necessarily make you not straight.

[(Anonymous)]

There's a word for that: heteroflexible. Predominantly heterosexual, but willing to bend for a few certain people that might catch your eye.

AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, we have a name for everything these days. But I guess that works...?

Re: AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

What can I say, we're lazy. It's easier to use than the whole sentence.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, for me it's like, I find other women attractive and appealing from time to time, but the thought of actually having sex or even being in a romantic relationship with a woman doesn't appeal to me.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, that's probably just straight. You can think someone's pretty or handsome without wanting to sleep with them.

[dragonimp]

Might be bi-romantic.

[elialshadowpine]

Bi-romantic wouldn't apply when she's saying that being in a romantic relationship with a woman wouldn't appeal to her either?

Sounds like anon probably finds women aesthetically pleasing.

[diet_poison]

I'm straight (female) and find both women and men aesthetically pleasing. A woman who is pretty and well-dressed is nice to look at - but it doesn't do anything for me sexually or romantically.

[jazmin_firewing.livejournal.com]

I LIKE IT. I'm going to try to use it IRL now!

[majorshipper]

Interesting! I'll have to make note of that term.

[(Anonymous)]

OP here, and yep. That's pretty much it. Everyone here has been super nice, but I still worry about being shot down for just joining the fad. Especially since IDK if I'm 100% sure I'm not just joining the fad. I like girls; I know that. But I also know I'm incredibly...enthusiastic? I will try everything once(wrote everyone first...XD), and since I have yet to actually BE in a f/f relationship, I feel like I can't know if it's not a fad.

Ugh. I appreciate everyone saying that I don't have to come out to fandom, but I'd like to tell my friends. Maybe after I do my flist cut.

[siofrabunnies]

If it is a phase, it doesn't have to be a big deal. Phases are completely valid! My first crush was on a girl, but I wasn't into any other girl until I was about twenty. I really do consider myself to have been straight in high school, but I'm completely pansexual now (ID'd as bi first, then learned about pan and found it fit better).

Human sexuality is more complex than a list of labels, and one person's sexuality can be more complex than one label. There's a reason 'bicurious' is a thing, and it's not a bad thing. If you're enjoying yourself, or learning about yourself, or whatever you want to get out of it, great! Just be safe and have fun.

[(Anonymous)]

Yet another example of my lack of knowledge; I've never heard bicurious used as anything other than a way of calling someone out for being bi just 'cause it's "cool". I'm trying to think of the word that explains it, but it's totally slipping my mind.

[(Anonymous)]

Damn, I feel like we're on the same wavelength or something, because...yeah. I've never really been in a relationship so it's sort of hard for me to even...know? I've always been kinda weirdly empathetic with people to the point that I take on their traits (probably because of some insecurities of my own, really) and a good friend of mine is bi, so sometimes I worry that I'm just trying to "fit in" with her or some weird thing? I don't know. So yeah, I have a lot of the same concerns as you.

After doing an flist cut would be good. Maybe tell the people you feel closest to. And don't be afraid to say "I don't know", either? I think people will understand if you explain what you're explaining here.

Although it's not like I've told anyone either, so heh.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes! I tend to adopt/adapt characteristics from everything around me, and I've always struggled with what's me and what's other people's contributions.

I think I am gonna talk to my flist, just put it on a filter and tell the people I know are understanding and cool.

[writerserenyty]

Hell, I identify as "straight" even though I'm attracted to multiple women; my main distinction is that I tend to be physically attracted to women in fandom related things and the like but not attracted to women I meet in my average life.

Sexuality is an interesting thing.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah! That's a lot of the thing with me. I find a lot of female characters attractive, and a few female actresses, but I've only ever known one girl that I felt actually attracted to (and even now, I'm not sure if I was attracted to her, and wanted to "be with" her, or if I admired her and wanted to be her. It's weird.)