[ SECRET POST #1981 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1981 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[thene]

People usually describe themselves as coming out of a closet rather than going into a box. Just being out can make it easier to relax and figure out what you're feeling. Some people come out as bi and then come out again as something else later. The fact that you're still worrying about 'letting something slip' might be a sign that staying closeted is more stress than you're comfortable with; even if you just find one person you want to talk to about this, it might make you feel a lot better, and then you can really not care about if or when anyone else finds out.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, looking at the words I choose is pretty telling of how I feel about it all, lol. I'm just stuck in a conundrum(or so I feel), 'cause I like structure and order and easily defined things, but I think sexuality is fluid and you shouldn't have to identify yourself as any specific way. But I like to be structured.
TBH I feel like if I were to come out to myself(for lack of a better way to put it), I'd be able to come to terms with a lot of stuff about myself, which might lead to me keeping a less tight lid on my lady-loving commentary, which could lead to slip-ups(IRL and online), which could lead to people knowing, especially IRL, where coming out isn't really an option.
I'm really considering making an entry to talk with some of my good trusted friends about it all.

[thene]

Future paranoia is NEVER A GOOD SIGN. The opposite is way more likely in any case, surely - that having at least some space to chill out and talk about yourself will make it easier to keep the walls up the rest of the time. At one point recently I had two jobs and was out at one of them but not the other. A lot of LGBT people have that kind of selective closeting going on - it's very normal and most people maintain it comfortably.

'Coming out to myself' is a great way to put it, and one a lot of people use to describe their histories. I hope that talking to your friends helps, anon.

[(Anonymous)]

I can't actually compare our situations but I do know I had a lot of these feelings and thoughts before my inevitable coming out and I did have some problems and fights but ultimately I did feel a lot better once I acknowledged my sexuality and let other people around me get to know me better. Relationships with my friends did change, in some cases they got even better and now I feel so much more secure in knowing that I'm really valued for who I am by my remaining and new friends. It was like ripping off a band-aid and if it is something you want to do I would recommend just going for it.