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fandomsecrets2012-06-08 06:38 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-06-08 06:38 pm
[ SECRET POST #1984 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1984 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Little Shop of Horrors]
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[Sherlock BBC]
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[sort of porny and possible underage; photomanip, Snape/Hermione]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
16. [SPOILER WARNING for Arrested Development]
[TRIGGER WARNING for incest]
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19. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual violence, rape, coercion, cult like mentalities, and violence]
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[Let the Right One In/Låt den rätte komma in]
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21. [TRIGGER WARNING for body horror, gore]
[Parasyte]
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22. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #283.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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I don't know what it is with bullies – why would they act so horribly to another living, feeling human being? How can that possibly make them feel *good* about themselves in *any* way? Why do they have so much power to change our lives forever? I think it's true though, that bullying that happens to you early in your life stays with you and changes you deeply. I'm not going though as much stuff as you are OP, but I still look back over my childhood from time to time and think “Man, those jerks I went to school with SURE did a number on me!” A more positive spin put on this was some author I was reading about (Stephen King, maybe? I can't remember) said that people who have been weird and an outsider in their life will always feel like that, at least a little bit, but that it's OK because you are actually bonded with the other freaks and not the normals, and the freaks can be much more interesting. It made me feel good in a way...
I agree with other people here, a therapist will help you so much more than you ever could on your own. Support groups are also a great idea – people need people, that's a cliche but it's a cliche because it's TRUE. When it comes down to it, relationships are really ALL that matter, and there are others out there who feel like you do who would love to have someone as awesome as you are to lean on and share with. It's so true what they say: “To cheer yourself up, cheer someone else up.”
Anyway, I wish you so much luck OP, and even before you start seeing a therapist or make any big changes in your life, I feel that any slack you can start cutting yourself would make such a huge difference. Whether or not you know it, you have so much going for yourself. Your parents obviously care about you, and that's a huge advantage. Your child will always love you, as long as you always give them love, it's as simple as that.
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html I know that different things inspire different people, but this TED talk was a really big wake-up call for me, and I feel like it might touch you as well. Basically this woman did research and she found out that in order to be and feel loved, the the huge requirement is that you allow yourself to be non-perfect and venerable. That's it. You don't have to be perfect to be loved OP, NO ONE IS, and as ironic as it is, the people who are really loved and fullfilled have figured out that they don't have to work to become worthy of love, they just ARE worthy of love, warts and all.
Basically, I know that the world is a tough, shitty place OP, but I hope that you can start taking small moments to think about how you ARE OK, and enjoy the small victories.