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⌈ Secret Post #1984 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Little Shop of Horrors]

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[Sherlock BBC]

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15. http://i.imgur.com/Jxlnf.png
[sort of porny and possible underage; photomanip, Snape/Hermione]

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16. [SPOILER WARNING for Arrested Development]
[TRIGGER WARNING for incest]

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17. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

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18. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse, suicide]

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19. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual violence, rape, coercion, cult like mentalities, and violence]

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[Let the Right One In/Låt den rätte komma in]

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21. [TRIGGER WARNING for body horror, gore]

[Parasyte]

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22. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse]

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As someone who grew up with a mom that tolerated an abusive husband because she thought it was important to keep the family together, I can honestly tell you I would have rather grown up without a father. And not to be cruel, but as I grew up I lost a lot of respect for my mom for putting up that. I know it's not fair, but there it is.

You are not a " selfish bitch" that's just your husband and your (depression? anxiety?) negative mind talking. A lot of the time abused people make excuses for why they're putting up with the abuse, and a lot of them are just self abuse (I'm not worthy. I'm a selfish bitch. I deserve this. etc). Stop the cycle of abuse - you have the power to do that.

Another note on your boy growing up without a dad - do you want him growing up with that as a role model for how men/husbands/fathers should act? Do you want him to grow up to be abusive? Not saying it'll happen, but it's a very real consequence sometimes.

Here's the thing, OP. I believe you want to change and I believe you're just floundering for how to do that. What you have to do is consciously recognize the self abuse and negative talk and teach it a lesson. Whenever that little voice in your head starts talking all that smack about you, you straighten your shoulders, hold your head up high, and tell it to go to hell because you are in control and you are worth it. Just stop those thoughts in their tracks, and push on through.

If you don't feel you can go to your parents for help, seek out a womens shelter. They not only shelter abused women, but they have resources to help get the man out of your life. They are amazing and supportive and will be there for you every step of the way.

Also, why do you feel you have to defend your husband to your parents? Stop that. Try being honest with your parents and say "yeah, yeah you're right he is an ass. can you help me?"

Good luck, OP. You totally deserve to be happy.

she thought it was important to keep the family together, </i A:TLA has one of my favorite moments actually surrounding that: Zuko: *rambling on about rescuing Azula because she needs help and she's family* Iroh: Zuko, your sister is crazy and needs to be put down. Family is important, but even then- some people shouldn't be tolerated just because they're a relative.

Anon, you just stole the words right from my keyboard, and far, far better than I could ever manage.

OP, if you do nothing else, follow this advice.

And if it helps, save this thread somewhere. Save it in more than one place, so that you always have it.

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