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fandomsecrets2012-06-08 06:38 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-06-08 06:38 pm
[ SECRET POST #1984 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1984 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Little Shop of Horrors]
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[Sherlock BBC]
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[sort of porny and possible underage; photomanip, Snape/Hermione]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
16. [SPOILER WARNING for Arrested Development]
[TRIGGER WARNING for incest]
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[Let the Right One In/Låt den rätte komma in]
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21. [TRIGGER WARNING for body horror, gore]
[Parasyte]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #283.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: THANK YOU
(Anonymous) 2012-06-11 04:34 am (UTC)(link)Kids can hate people.
Trust me on this, kids can absolutely hate people. I wanted my mother dead a lot. I didn't, at first, but I saw how she treated my father and how she was at me - she used to routinely threaten suicide to the point that after a while I actually stopped feeling guilty that I was causing her to want to die and started actively wanting her to die so she'd stop talking. I'd then feel bad for hours on end because my dad would tell me things like - I shouldn't say that sort of thing, I didn't really mean it, I should love my mother because she gave birth to me and brought me up and he'd tell me why I should value having her in my life.
Why am I saying this? I'm saying this because you said that you're afraid you'll be a selfish bitch if you kick your abusive spouse out and have your son grow up without a father figure.
Let me tell you right now, the way you describe your husband, he is not being a father to your child. This may be hard for you to hear, but the man you are currently married to is NOT your child's father. Your child does not have a father. What he has is a man in his house who is abusing his mother in front of him, who is putting her down and hurting her, and if I know how abusive parents work, probably hurting him too. This is not what a father does. Are you worried about how your son feels? Talk to your son. Tell him your concerns. Don't tell him HOW he should feel about things, ASK him how he feels and why he feels that way. Find some place and time where your son will be comfortable, and then talk to him there.
As someone who came from a pretty shitty family situation (very ideal family on the outside, very... NOT ideal from the inside), please believe me when I say that it will do more damage and hurt your son - and yourself - far more to have him see his mother getting abused by someone else he's told should be a parental figure to him. This is NOT something you want children growing up with, or around. You are not being selfish by removing something that is hurting your son and hurting you from the both of your lives. Please do not think that, please do not ever think that. You can get out of this, OP, and you SHOULD.