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i've noticed a lot of blurring between secrets and not-secrets. You've posted secrets that are replies to other secrets, that are replies to their own secret, and the classic "OTP"-style secret that usually wouldn't be posted. I think it would be in your best interest to redefine the rules of what is and isn't a secret---and make the community aware of that.

My idea: all secrets must obviously be secrets, or must explain why they're secrets in the first place.

Example A) Fuck you, I'm a lion!
Example B) I want to run around town telling people "Fuck you, I'm a lion!" Secret because I am actually a bear.
Example C) I have dreams where I get fucked by bears and lions.

B is a secret because it's explained (and people at this comm seem to love explaining themselves), C is a secret because it's obviously secretive, but A is not. You'd have a lot of freedom to judge what is and isn't a secret, but if anything you'd get to use the ax more than before, because the following would no longer be secrets:

- If you like this thing you're retarded!
- Fandom is my life!
- Am I a bad fangirl?
- I love everybody at this site!
- I'm really unique because of this guy I RP!
- I used to ship HIM and HIM, but now I ship HIM and HIM and HER and HIM OT4 4LYFE where is the fanfic ;_;

I like this place a lot, but it's become so popular and loosely ruled that a lot of the "secrets" are just self-congratulatory bullshit, sniping about other fans, and thinly-veiled advertisements for RP/LJ communities. It would be way better if you were more demanding about what a secret actually entailed, so instead of having to scroll through God knows how many crap posts we could get back to the good stuff. Like "My cousin touched me inappropriately and I thought it was awesome because it reminded me of my favorite anime." Let's have some real secrets again, please.

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The thing is, I kind of already do go by those rules. Except maybe a bit more leniently because it's just impossible to determine what is a secret to a certain person even other people wouldn't be ashamed of it at all, so the rules I go by are kind of just, if it's worded like a secret, it's a secret ("THIS GUY IS THE HOTTEST ONE ON THE SHOW THE OTHERS SUCK" doesn't count here) -- so I'm not sure what to tell you. Like your examples:

- If you like this thing you're retarded!
Worded like that, of course it wouldn't be a secret. But, the ones I do put up have things like "I think if you like this, you're retarded -- secret because my flist loves it," or "I'm starting to think all fans of a certain fandom are delusional" -- secrets, right?

- Fandom is my life!
It's really not my call here. I mean, I don't know who it is, how can I say it is or isn't a secret from their IRL friends/family/whoever else?

- Am I a bad fangirl?
Worded like that, this isn't a secret. But usually stuff comes before it. Like "I love Geass but I hate Rolo and everyone seems to love Rolo -- am I a bad fangirl?" The secret isn't the question, it's the hating Rolo and feeling like a bad fan for it.

- I love everybody at this site!
Again this isn't my call -- what if people don't even know they GO to the site, or participate, or know they're even part of that fandom?

- I'm really unique because of this guy I RP!
Haven't seen any like this lately, unless it's "I RP this person but no one else does/RPs from the same fandom and it's lonely" which is kind of a secret

- I used to ship HIM and HIM, but now I ship HIM and HIM and HER and HIM OT4 4LYFE where is the fanfic ;_;
... why is this not a secret? Ships change?

I mean I'm sure some get by me from time to time, but I'd rather err on the side of the posters than of censoring, in the end.