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fandomsecrets2012-06-22 06:42 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-06-22 06:42 pm
[ SECRET POST #1998 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1998 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Peter Gabriel]
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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
10. [SPOILERS for the Hunger Games]
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11. [WARNING for abuse]
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[Hetalia]
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13. [WARNING for abuse]
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14. [WARNING for gore, animal abuse]
http://i.imgur.com/SjfD3.jpg
[images of actual dead animals and stuff.]
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[Video Games Awesome Live]
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[Avatar: the Last Airbender]
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[American Horror Story]
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18. [WARNING for dub-con, grooming, brainwashing]
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19. [WARNING FOR general discussion of triggery topics (there's bound to be triggering material in the comments)]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #285.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 1 (warning for rape) - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 2 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
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1. The things your mother did and does were hurtful before you admitted to yourself that she was doing something wrong. They still damaged your sense of self-worth, hurt your feelings, etc. Only now that you can see it more clearly, you can block it better. Instead of internalizing the hurtful things and accepting them as right, you can go "wait, you're wrong and you're just saying that because you're kinda a shitty person sometimes. That's not something that's true about me, that's just the sort of garbage you say." That way you'll actually be hurt less
2. The fact that you can see that treating someone that way is wrong makes it less likely that you will treat others that way.
3. You can still love your mother and acknowledge that she has good qualities and even loves you and tries to do right by you in some ways, and know that she's also got some bad traits.
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It's really hard to acknowledge that isn't true but doing so helped me realize that a lot more of the negative things I believe about myself came from her and are not necessarily true. I've been using this experience as something to better the way I feel about myself. Maybe I can't change her but I can change the way I receive what she says.
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(Anonymous) 2012-06-23 08:20 pm (UTC)(link)This. Change the world by changing how you perceive the world. Never fails.