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fandomsecrets2012-07-01 03:19 pm
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 09:36 pm (UTC)(link)Yes, that does make sense- I can see how that could be a problem. I remember when I was in middle school my grandmother had that talk with me. I don't remember what brought it up, but I guess I responded to something by saying "well at least I'm not ugly and I don't hate boys" or something like that. That was actually when I learned about her past activism, and I actually really grew to respect her after that. (yeah, I know, CSB).
It feels like in more recent times, though, the whole SJW style of activism where you scream obscenities and invective at anyone who doesn't fall in lockstep with you or fall into your preconceived paradigms has taken over a lot of these different movements, like in my experiences. I know there's more reasonable ones out there (like you), but at times it can be hard to remember that when you're being called a fucking asshole misogynist bigot because you tried to help your husband get treatment for his PTSD. :|
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 09:43 pm (UTC)(link)It's always sad when people take "equality" to mean "drag everyone down to the same lower level" instead of "raise everyone up to the higher one." We don't get (something), so you should take it away from the other group! How does that even help /sigh
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 10:03 pm (UTC)(link)Well I'd say that in some respects the only way to make people equal is to take away from the group in power. For example, the only way to lower the disparity between rich and poor is to take away from the rich - not to make them poor, but to make them less rich and spread the wealth around to those who are poor.
Or, when it comes to less material things - in using an analogy -
In order for those who are oppressed or less privileged to be heard, those who are in power and privileged must stop being allowed to have the floor all the time. They have to be silent sometimes. Sure, that's taking away from them and in a sense lowering them to the level of those who have had to endure in silence and listen all the time, but it's the only way for those who have been suffering in silence to be able to speak up and be heard. And if sometimes (or, perhaps more honestly, often) those who have been silent and ignored have to shout to be heard and acknowledged, then I don't think we should have to waste much sympathy on the eardrums of those who have been the only talkers for so long.
God that's a convoluted analogy, but hopefully it kind of makes sense?
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 10:10 pm (UTC)(link)Taking money from the rich and making the divide smaller doesn't mean that they're no longer rich; what I mean is people wanting the rich to be as poor as they are out of spite. Which helps nothing, frankly. In the other example, giving the oppressed "equal privilege to be heard" doesn't mean you have to take away anybody else's privilege to be heard and make them completely silent. Only give the oppressed the privilege, too.
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 10:27 pm (UTC)(link)I get what you're saying about sometimes people just seem to want to make others suffer out of spite because of what they have suffered themselves - and honestly, I can understand that sentiment, although I don't think it's healthy or moral to actually endeavour to bring about that suffering or devote a great deal of time to fantasizing about it - but I don't think it's a clear dichotomy between "we can all have some!" and "I didn't have any so you shouldn't have any either, fuck you!!!"
If someone has everything, then of course they're going to have to lose some of that in order for others to have some. And a big part of oppression and privilege is that it's defined by havers and have-nots. Getting rid of the category of have-not kind of by default gets rid of the category of havers - because if everyone's a haver it can't be a category anymore, since a category can only be defined by being different from something else. If there's nothing else for it to be different from, it can't be a category. If that makes sense.
There was once a really awesome article I read that explained how the identity of white is built on not being a person of colour, and how in order to destroy racism in some ways the whole identity of whiteness has to be destroyed. I'll see if I can find it and post it later tonight when I have access to my bookmarks.
Obviously, though, that can't really be applied to feminism because there's a lot more to gender identity than privileged group vs oppressed group... although it is a big part of it, I'm sure at least some people would argue... this is always the problem with arguing this kind of stuff, there are so many different trains of thought regarding everything. Ahhh.
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 10:18 pm (UTC)(link)And some activists wonder why people want to distance themselves from their cause...
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(Anonymous) 2012-07-01 10:15 pm (UTC)(link)First - just so you know, your grandmother sounds awesome.
Now, to the rest of your comment... lol I'm actually usually called an SJW when I post in fandomsecrets (as an anon, I never unanon here anymore). I'll admit though that yeah, the SJ movement on the internet can be pretty shitty sometimes. I just think, most of the time, people complaining about it are not referring to the sort of genuinely shitty behaviour you've described, and are just using 'people on the internet being mean' as an excuse to not care about social issues.
It's a bit like the disconnect between the "Ew feminists, I'm not a manhating bitch like them!!!" train of thought and the "ah, feminists... there are some really fucked up parts of that movement" one. There are legitimate criticisms to be made of the SJ movement. They're just often by-passed or exaggerated to justify people's lack of caring and ignorance toward certain social matters.
Sooo what I'm trying to say here is, I get what you're saying.
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